Let's say I see a girl I like, well logic tells me to become friends with her, but then I usually end up as just a friend.
So wtf? It's not like I can just go up to a girl and say 'Hey I thought you were cute, and want to know if you want to hang out sometime' because that would just be ignored
Most Helpful Girl
Pretty sure that 'Hey, I thought you were cute and want to know if you want to hang out' would work, dude. It's nice, it's polite, it's outgoing, it gives promise of something happening - it works pretty well, I think you should give it a go! :) Either way, yeah, sometimes being friends does work at becoming a relationship. My boyfriend and I were super close friends for four years and then got together.
I guess the idea is that you should want to be her friend, don't go into it with ulterior motives and the aim of dating. Be open to it but don't like... Have it be your only objective, y'know? Genuinely form a friendship and then perhaps advance it to a relationship rather than use the friendship as a stepping stool to the relationship... This probably doesn't make any sense at all :P1
Most Helpful Guy
You definitely don't want to friend zone yourself. If you're attracted to her, either date or don't talk, that's my mentality anyways.
And your comment: 'Hey I thought you were cute, and want to know if you want to hang out sometime'
.. honestly, that's not a bad approach dude! haha fr, if thinks your hot you're in.1