Ok I think I've told you guys about this guy but here it goes. Lovers since November, really care for each other and love /like each other a lot. But! won't really date me! Now i can kind of get an idea for the reason why, but i keep thinking that its about me alone. Id like to hear your opinion :)(no mean comments, ok well at least sugar coat them)
Okay I;m going to fix what I said earlier. He acknowledges our sugar relationship but says that he's way too old for me to get serious
Some guys simply have commitment issues. A big age gap doesn't mean that those issues go away. For people able to deal with a large age gap, the gap itself doesn't make one more or less likely to actually 'date' the person. I have had partners with a big age gap that I have been happy to date, and I have had partners with a big age gap that I would sleep with, and enjoyed spending time with, but wouldn't actually date.
So it could be that he is really happy being your lover, but flat out isn't interested in actually dating. That would be the most simple, straight-forward answer, and also the most likely. A guy that is enjoying what he is getting but not interested in more can get very creative in what kinds of excuses he comes up with that will keep things exactly the way the are.
I don't get people's reaction on here. Why do they care about the age gap, it's not even their own relationship! You are 23yo for fuck's sake, you are old enough to know what you want in life. Now, to answer your question. It is obvious to me that he does not have deep feelings for you. He likes the relationship as it is right now but is not ready to go further and might never be. He wants sex from a 23yo in exchange for sugar...
I'd date you in a heartbeat ! And I'm 64. In the US it's rare to see an age gap relationship of that range. I'm all in favor of them. I cannot imagine why he won't date you. Like we say in Texas, "He just ain't right !" I wouldn't hang around forever. You deserve a happy love life. by the way, my girlfiend just turned 21. And we're very happy. Age gap relationships (contrary to what bitter feminazis say) can work. by the way she's from Colombia. Down there it's not a big deal..
He is entirely correct doesn't want to be a sugar daddy and you need counseling. He is way too old for you what's wrong with you? You like his money? The point is no matter what he's too old for you and there is something wrong with you at age 23 would want a 53-year-old guy
Cuz you are too young for him. it's a good thing. It shows that he has respect for u and for himself. Any other pervy man would have taken advantage of the situation. He is a good man and u will soon get bored of him, u will want a younger guy and he very much knows this. So it's time to let him go.