- Yes I've given someone a second chanceVote A
- No, we broke up for goodVote B
- OtherVote C
Most Helpful Guy
My world is divided into two groups.
1. People who I trust 100% absolutely without any doubt.
2. Everyone else.
As soon as someone cheats, they move into the second category and nothing they ever do will convince me to trust them 100% absolutely. After all, the only way to trust a cheater would be to totally forget that they had cheated on you, and why would you forget something like that?5
Most Helpful Girl
I was stupid and let one of my boyfriends back after he cheated on me. He acted truly sorry and although he is normally the "I'm a man I must not show emotion" type he started crying and told me he loved me for the first time but he's depressed and stressed out and can't keep doing an intense relationship. The relationship had been a dream before the cheating incident and so I wanted to work it out in a way that worked for him, too.
Then, for two months, he became distant, emotionally abusive, really aggressive sounding when we talked, and screwed up a couple events I was really excited about by ignoring my messages and not showing up (even though he agreed to come).
I think he continously cheated on me, but I'll never know for sure. We finally broke up basically because I told him that I wanted to work with him but I felt unappreciated. He then told me how he lied about loving me just to make me stay, he can do better than me, and he probably won't have time for me for really long time. Obviously I start crying and he scolded "there's no reason to be crying right now!"
Sort of immature, yes, but when we got off the phone and I was sobbing I sent a text "I hope you don't find happiness because you don't deserve it." He then replied "well I hope you do because you deserve someone better." And that's the last thing he ever said to me.
I've made up my mind now that if someone cheats on me, that is an automatic end to the relationship. I'll consider dating them again a long time later after they get their shit together... but in the meantime I want to save myself from the emotional abuse and continued cheating.