A black guy asked me out on a date, but I don't date black guys. Of course I was respectful about it and said that I'm currently too busy for a date, but then he started to threaten me by saying that he'd tell everyone I'm a racist and all that! :'( I don't know what to do. I'm white.
So you didn't even mention race to him and he pulls the race card because he got rejected? LOL... What a moron. Everyone will have some form of racial preference, I know I do, and there's nothing racist about that at all.
Unfortunately there's not much you can do if he's going to go around talking crap, those that know you well should ignore it and those that don't know you, don't matter.. If they want to believe whatever someone tells them that's their problem. A guy once got rejected by my girlfriend and he went around calling her a slut, it was pretty funny if I'm honest.
I am not saying this particular guy - cause he doesn't sound attractive. But how can you say 'I don't date black guys' as if they are all the same?
I bet 100% if you got to know a good man of any race, you'd see the beauty in them. At the moment you are racist, although this guy had no legitimate reason to believe this unless he is psychic lol, because you are looking at whole group of people superficially. I am not saying you are not allowed to have a preference, but I doubt you have ever really gotten to know and love people outside your race.
I used to think like you, but ever since I traveled and got to know various cultures - I see handsome men all over the world.
If it is your personal preference, not being attracted to black or any other kind of people, it is your right to have it. It is not racism unless you consider the black people as less than whites, etc.
If he is threatening you he is a jerk, and for dealing with jerks you may have some options - ignore him, and if he actually spreads the 'bad rumors' about you, denounce him of sexually harassing you (yes, this is it) to your local authority, being it the Principal or the cops.
"Your reaction shows me that it was the right decision to say no. I'd never date someone with immature behaviour like that, someone who threatens me and goes spread lies around, no matter what his skin colour is. I'm not not obligated to date every guy asking me out. I'm not interested in you, deal with it."
He's a racist butt hole. Don't let him victimize you. Guys like him have deeply rooted internalized hatred going on. They have this enormous victim complex that he loves to blame white people for and views white girls as the ultimate prize. '
Give him the time of day and you won't even be seen as a human being. He'll look at you as a sexual conquest and societal achievement. You'll be a trophy to him not a woman worthy of love and respect.
Tell him you don't date jerks and that if he spreads those rumors, you'll tell everyone he threatened you. He'll stop. (And if he doesn't, that's what male relatives are for.) You're free to have whatever preferences you want, but make sure you don't turn down a really good guy in the future. Best of luck!
I hate to break it to you, but if you're not interested in someone because of the colour of their skin instead of the quality of their character, you're racist, whether you consciously acknowledge it or not.
Tell him that you cannot help the fact that you aren't attracted to him as a person and him jumping to conclusions like that is ignorant. Also tell them that threatening a girl after being rejected by her is not the way to a woman's heart and just makes him look like a overgrown child.