Ok so 5 years ago my boyfriend cheated on me and I told him the only way I'd forgive him is if he gave me a pass to do the same when the opportunity presented itself. Do you think its a little petty-like and too late to bring it up now? because I really think I've found a boy I like and would love to use the pass on.
And if I do, should I let my boyfriend know I'm using the pass?
Even you admit it's petty. This immaturity is partly what's ruining this world. I don't condone your boyfriend cheating on you, but I also don't condone you cheating on him, in revenge. That makes you just as bad of a person if not worse than him. You should've broke up with him when he cheated. It's unbelievable what this world keeps coming to.
I think that such a proposal is incredibly petty. That cheating 'back' on him is the only way to make things fair? You mean to say that being just as scummy as he was for you will somehow make your own failure to be faithful any less of a violation?
If he agreed to the premise that you were entitled to a free pass, then you are entitled to a free pass. Unless you mutually agreed on an expiration date, then hey, you can't control how long it takes to find a worthy fella.
No I don't think it's too late you should have sex if you want
You cheating on him because he cheated on you will only make it worse, it won't fix anything.
There are no passes in a relationship. It was petty to think the only reason your relationship survived was because of a pass. And using it 5 years later? I'm guessing he thought you meant in like within the next 4 months when you demanded a free pass. Not 5 years later.
I think a cheating pass, which is stupid by the way, should only be valid for a couple of months because the wound is still fresh and the cheating would be out of anger. More than that for me means you haven't forgiven your partner and should break up.
So Is your guy just a contingency plan till something better comes along? No judgement, just curious why you'd want to do what he did? I'd never chose to hurt someone I loved like that.. Will u be ok with it if you do choose to follow through?