I've completely wasted it at 23...
let me tell you something about myself
Im a woman of 23 almost 24 and i live with my mother and she is depressed and i hate living there but up till now i had no money and was too stupid to move out and take care of myself. I feel like a failure... i did nothing special this past year but sit at home, broke but i go to school. I Always feel scared to live my life because i still live with my mom and im scared what she will think of me. I met a guy at 22 and i really liked me, he was like my first kiss and all and i was pretty sexual with him. I only saw him like 5 times but we texted a lot and he wanted to get serious with me but all of a sudden he backed out and left me hanging, im still a virgin tho... after that experience i had another experience with another guy... i made out with him was also pretty sexual but we didn't do the deed. I went on a few dates after that but haven't met anyone yet, the last date was 6 months ago and i had a fight on the last date with a guy... i was SO sick of my life and i just broke down, i felt like failure, with no friends, no boyfriend, still single, never even had a boyfriend just a few failure dates, and people look at me like im crazy,, i feel socially behind and just plain awful... what should i do? i was a very responsible good girl,. i just wasn't mature enough to take care of myself, reeally insecure... i miss myself and I've lost myself... my morals, my life... Im seriously at a dead end...
Most Helpful Guy
"[...] i felt like failure, with no friends, no boyfriend, still single [...]"
One of the things I would suggest is to stop trying to determine your own self-worth by fixating on getting laid.
That will generally deprive you of developing those social qualities which will actually allow you to have a nice relationship with a man.
It generally goes hand-in-hand that people who have a very hard time getting attention from the opposite sex also have a hard time making a large number of friends of the same sex.
It's easier to develop those social qualities by just seeking out friends first before you go chasing after boys. So I recommend a detour, try to focus on making just ordinary friends and putting yourself out there and having a good time. You do have to put yourself out there. Don't decline invites to parties, social groups, don't shy away when people say "hi" to you. Let yourself brighten up, have fun, laugh.
Put the idea of getting a boyfriend behind you for a bit. Focus on yourself and making friends. It'll generally help, and you might find a boyfriend before you know it if you just take it easy and learn to navigate the social aspects of life.0
Most Helpful Girl
I know exactly how you feel and I'm there too currently. I live out of a suitcase, have been bouncing around from state to state for 5 years now, living with whoever will take me in. I can't get a job to save my life, can't go to college, have health issues on top of that, the love of my life who I was going to marry recently broke up with me, and I'm insanely depressed because I thought he was going to be my ticket out of this self-made hell I've found myself in. My last resort is to start my own business and finally start climbing out of the hole. I'm not going to stop though, even if i fail, I have to keep moving.
Keep going, do whatever you can whenever you can. You're still young, we both are, and I'm in your corner. Don't worry about what your mom thinks, I wasted a lot of my life trying to please my parents who both expected different things from me. Parents can raise you but they can't determine your life and you can't let them. In the end you are your own person and its not too late for you.
Just keep swimming :)0