I watch YouTube very frequently and lately I've been watching a lot of mgtow videos. Everything being said in the videos makes sense and sounds accurate. But the thing that makes me fearful and confused is men not wanting to get married. I mean women trying to use men for their resources sounds pretty f***ed up, and it makes sense for men not wanting to be chivalrous or get married. But, what about women who aren't gold diggers? I mean some must exist since the acronym nawalt exists. When I think about what it would be like to get married I don't envision me nagging and being obnoxious, I see myself cooking for him, cleaning up the house, trying to look my best for him, giving him back massages, and asking him how his day was. Is it wrong of me to want to stay at home and do the things I listed while he works? ( oh , and I don't think men should pay for everything.) And if a guy felt like I was just using him by me staying home while he works then I would go out and get a job , or I could even have a part time job and do a bit of both.( housekeeping and work outside of home). I am fearful because being married sounds like a nice thing. Are there men who still want to get married? Should I change my way of thinking concerning this topic?
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This issue highlights a significant problem in our culture. Too many men feel that women take advantage of them by staying home with the children while the husband works and earns the money. This is especially true of the MGTOW crowd (I call them MFTOCEM: Men Fixin' Their Own Coffee Every Morning.) If you don't value the contributions that are made at home then, of course, you will view women as "taking advantage of" men. But parents not being at home with their kids, letting their babies grow up in day care, is why families don't stay together, why divorce rates are so high, why so many women are unhappy.
MFTOCEM are very angry men and everything they say about women is distorted by their anger. Listening to them talk about women is like listening to the KKK talk about race relations.
The bottom line for you is that it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks about marriage and long term relationships. All that is important is for you to understand what YOU want and to find a partner who shares your beliefs and goals. You don't need to satisfy anybody else's expectations and you don't need to let them tell you how to think. Be strong and resolute because you are talking about YOUR future. If you do not look out for yourself, who else will do that for you?
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