So this guy tells me he really likes me and wants to get to know me.
After that he didn't text for 4-5 days. I confronted him that he didn't have to lead me on.
He said he didn't and he was busy. I feel if you really like me, you wouldn't be that busy for that many days without a im so tired and busy. sorry ill get back to you later message. Anyways, I confronted him. He got super angry and defensive and called me irrational. He ignored me for two weeks and came back hoping i understand why space was needed. I asked him what he wanted because I didn't want my time wasted. friend or to get to know me? he didn't text back so i told him delete my number i already knew the answer. I was already hurt and just knew. He called me irrational again saying he was going to reply after his work.. ( it was 3am) Asked him if we can talk over the phone. He said sure. Next day he made up an excuse saying he's sick and can't go to a show. ( I had no idea what show he was talking about.) I felt mocked and disrespected so I told him to go to hell. After that he said he cared and he didn't want to hurt my feelings and told me goodbye. I told him goodbye and never heard from him again. Why say you like someone but you didn't mean it? Why say you didn't want to hurt my feelings, but you knew all along what you were doing? It's been 4 months and im still hurt over this. Granted we only talked for 2 months and met twice.. but I felt an emotional connection with him. We looked at the world the same way and we had similar family problems. This could be my own fault.. in the beginning he said he was talking to other girls including me. I said okay thats cool.. so was I with other guys.. we werent exclusive. But if that was the case.. why say all the mushy stuff? I've never cried over a guy... I guess I really liked him and he broke my heart. But for next time.. how can I know and what to do in situations like this?
Most Helpful Guy
It mean he don't want to hurt your feeling. LULZ.
Not everything revolve around you. Yes he like you, but maybe he's really are busy. There a lot of thing going around in his world. So let me pretend to be in his shoes, and give you what I think is what he feel about the whole thing , from the top :
You got pissed cuz he didn't give you attention for a week, so of course he angry and call you irrational. He might like you, but you ain't the only shit he have to worry about. As this point, you are just another problem he have to deal with. One more problem adding to his mountain of problem that life give to everyone daily.
After two week, he finally calm down and got over it, and so he tried to talk to you again. And then of course you give him another bitchy comment and attitude after he didn't text you back soon enough. I get it, you want him to show you that he care, but at this point, he probably getting sick of you.
The final event, after you told him to "go to hell", he probably decide that it is over. He told you he didn't really meant to hurt your feeling, not intentional, and told you goodbye.
I'm sure he really did meant it when he told you he liked you and want to get to know you better. But you're too quick to jump the gun and get mad at him. Do you have a problem with men leading you on in the past? You seem very insecure. He probably stop liking you and lost interest down the line because of it.0
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Most Helpful Girl
It means he doesn't want to hurt your feelings because he has none. I had this exact same situation few months ago and hell yeah it was confusing! I was never led on before and I honestly never crushed on someone so fast the way I did for this guy. I give way too many chances and benefits of the doubt. And here I thought that my 4 year long relationship with my ex and the most painful breakup ever had taught me something. Nope. I fell into the same trap again. But luckily, this time I got out of it fast enough.
To make it short, he said he wants to take things slow and doesn't want to hurt my feelings. After that he started texting less, calling less, being less available, but would always make sure to be a prince charming when he does reach out. I got bored of it all and I wasn't reaching out anymore. He wasn't either, like maybe once in 2, 3 weeks would text me something stupid. Then he completely stopped and that's it. Later I found out he was seeing someone else all along. I'm over him now but I still find it hard sometimes to brush off that awful experience, gives me trust issues. But yeah, why I learned and what I will def. use from now on is: red flags are dealbreakers. Goodbye. The end.0
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