Completely serious question. I was talking to one of my guy friends about my biggest insecurity (being single) and he told me I'm single because I chose to go to college and actually study. Like, seriously, he said most girls put more effort into finding a man than I did which is why I'm the only one of my friends who is single/not married/not in a relationship. And he said a lot of guys are not attracted to a girl with a career who is taking care of herself. He said I'm really pretty and funny and if I had relied more on that instead of my GPA, I would have a husband by now. I then asked my cousin, who is 32, and he said that was true, that most guys don't go after girls who study and work careers and what have you.
Please tell me that's not true. If it is, I think I might die a little on the inside.
- Yes, Ambitious Women Are A Turn Off10% (5)19% (13)16% (18)Vote
- No, What The Fuck Is Your Friend Smoking?90% (43)81% (55)84% (98)Vote
Most Helpful Guy
I personally don't see it as unattractive at all. Quite the opposite. Educational achievements are associated with strong work ethic and intelligence. I can almost always carry an intelligent conversation with a girl who is educated. Men feel the need to be the breadwinners and and biology will always make us feel that way. A strong sense to be the provider is completley normal.
If I carried a B. S. and my significant other carried a masters I wouldn't really care to be honest.. if she was making a significant more amount of money than me than that might bother me a little to be honest.
That being said I also think a lot of women could be happier at home raising the kids and having a family. While that might insult a lot of people on here I really do think it's true. Women are naturally the nurturers and would be more comfortable like that. Society tells them otherwise though.. that they need to go out and work full time and they shame house moms. My dad was the breadwinner and made good money. My mom was a stay at home mom but later became a school teacher. She loved both.. she got to work at the same elementary school that her kids were at. She was always home with us and they have a great marriage. My point being in saying all that is that it could be seen as a turn off if you come off with that raunchy condescending 'I'm an independent bitch' type of attitude. I know a lot of girls who act like that and it's a turnoff to me. Education alone though.. a huge turn on.
Your friend sounds really insecure and his standards on women sound of those that live in a trailer park if he thinks that is the reason you are single lol.0
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Most Helpful Girl
it IS unattractive. at the end of the day... a guy might say he likes a professional, an educated woman, but you still have to be openly girly, sexual, flirty. he still has to be the center of your world. they need to be leaned on to feel important and powerful. lately, i've been getting a lot "you need to let a man be a man" bullshit. so... i understand your plight. at the same time, i don't want to be with someone who... is super passive or whatever. it's... confusing. I don't know what to do lol.0