I have been dating this guy and i knew everythings going so well
On Friday, we had dinner together and we cuddled and watched tv together i could feel that something hard close to my body so I knew he was turned on... He started kissing me and caressing my body.. I was very nervous but turned on And i wanted to try and spend a night with him
So i told him im still a virgin and when i did... He looked really shocked and stopped everything that we were doing...
He sat up on the couch and he drank the whole glass of wine that we had and then he left.. I haven't heard from him..
Maybe it was a wrong idea.. Maybe i should not have told him.. It was second time that guy left me in the room alone after i told them im a virgin...
now im very insecure about being one what should I do :(
A women in her late 20's who claims to be a virgin is one of two things... (generally) - A religious nut who has kept her virginity to appease some fictional deity. * Therefore a massive red flag to bail because she is a head case.
It's not necessarily because you being a virgin is unappealing, it's because taking somebody's virginity is typically a big deal for a lot of people. They either don't feel worthy of taking it (because they may have no intention of staying around) or they're worried that if they do, things will be expected to get really serious.
You should have told him, it's better that you did. Clearly he was in shock. Maybe he'll come back and explain why he left. If a guy isn't OK with you being a virgin, then they're not guys you should wanna give your virginity to in the first place.
I've had the same thing happen to me. I'm not holding on to it. I've just never had a relationship and I want to have sex in a relationship. The moment a guy finds out I am still one, they flee. I'm going to be 30 soon and this has been happening since shortly after my 25th birthday. In my late teens and early 20s I was overweight so I was insecure. I didn't think a guy would like me so I didn't bother dating. I've lost all the weight since then. Now guys seem to be turned off by virginity. It sucks because I want sex but I don't want it to be a one nighter. I just want a boyfriend to have sex with and I don't plan to make him wait forever. I feel like I'm just going to have to have a one night stand or just never mention it.