So how do you guys and gals know that a date was not a complete fail? I don't have much experience with dates and was quite curious bout it... especially since i was on a date 3 days ago and am not quite sure it was success. It all started great, lunch, walk... but a little before the movie started a mutual male friend of ours joined us and that's when I became the third wheel :/ The guy I went out with was super nervous, it was quite obvious but could that be a reason enough to call for help? I'm not quite sure... and I still haven't got a call or anything from him so yeah, probably was a fail lol
p. s. : I did texted him, nothing that sounds desperate or anything. No answer or read. He is purposely ignoring me. At the end of the date he gave me a long hug so i consider it a success and now the silence is weird.
Going to a movie on a first date is a pretty bad sign right there. You should be somewhere you can talk and get to know each other a bit. A short activity to have a little fun is fine too, but not a 2-3 hours long movie in the dark.
Also, if you're on a "date", but a third person shows up, it's no longer a date. If I was on a date with a woman and one of her friends showed up and they started hanging out, I'd leave and go do something else. Of course if you're in a relationship and a friend shows up to hang out a bit that's usually ok, but on the first couple dates it should be just thw two of you getting to know each other.
A first date is successful if you met and thought your date was attractive, you soon became engrossed in conversation and lost your self-consciousness, if you learned some things about your date that made you feel some respect for them, if you didn't want the date to end when it did, and if you are sitting around wondering when he will call to ask you for the next date.
If you aren't thinking it would be nice to kiss this guy then it's a failed date. No big deal, that's why we date. One summer I had seventeen first dates and no second dates. Six months later I met my wife.
Lol the guy is probably ashamed and doesn't have the courage to face you. If you act with him like everything was great, he might realize it wasn't so bad and he might be willing to try again if you still want to. Try to get to see him again but don't mention the date before you can be alone with him in flesh or he will flee. If you ask him if you were OK as a date, he might realize that you feel bad just like him. It might be enough to disarm the situation.
I rarely decide if I want to see her again after the first date, unless she is hopelessly uneducated and stupid, too, then I really don't see conversing her about anything.
Getting nervous is to be expected, after all it's someone new and you're trying your damnedest to not make yourself look stupid. I used to share that concern, now I don't care. I will make a public scene if only to have a little fun.
I don't know what would constitute as a 'fail'. If we had a fun night, then that's gravy, no?
First ask yourself 1 Didi have a good time? 2 would I like to do it again? 3 if yes then ask him. If he ignores you don't worry. Just move on. That's what the dating game is like. And the more dates you go on the better at it you will be. I got craped on by a bird my first date.
If you like him you've just gotta suck it up and be brave. Stop being passive. This is your life and you'll never have full control of the outcomes but you don't have to let it just steamroll over you. Call him up if you liked him. Send a text. Literally the worse thing that could happen is the guy who didn't want to date you still doesn't want to date you but even in that scenario you dont have to sit around waiting and wondering you can move on. Most girls I know for some reason think guys actually do things on purpose like we don't get caught up in emotional confusion too. You've probably missed out on tons of solid relationships waiting on guys. The slightest bit of proactivety from a girl can go sooooo far. Just call/text him. It won't hurt. And if it does it won't last for long.
When you text a girl after the date and she doesn't "ghost" you.
If you felt a spark and you got the ball rolling (like, conversation-wise) despite any nervousness or awkward silences here and there, it should be a pretty good indicator of the date having gone well. Sometimes the feelings might not be mutual even if the date went well, but generally I think that if you feel it click, the other person probably feels it too. The guy probably thinks he hecked up or something, called for backup and then ended up feeling guilty for basically turning your date into a public hangout sesh. You should probably reach out to him yourself and ask if he wants to do it again sometime. Tell him you had a great time. Maybe somehow sneak in that you'd also prefer it if it was just the two of you. See how he reacts. If he's interested, he'll say yes. If he's disinterested, he might not respond, bluntly say no, or keep giving you vague excuses as to why he doesn't have the time or whatever. Don't be afraid of contacting him though. He might just think that you think the date went to hell, so why even bother. If you're interested in him still, you've got to show your interest.
well, my last first date was a smashing success lol.
how i knew: we had tons in common, there were no gaps in conversation, and we've been inseparable ever since. what was supposed to be a 2-3 hour coffee date turned into a day-long adventure, and we're still enjoying each other's company to this day. :)
at this point, the ball is in his court. if you don't hear from him after a week, consider it a bust and move on... you can also try to casually invite him out with a group of friends and see how he responds.
... was it by chance the other friend joined or was he actively invited or encouraged to join when you guys ran into him?
If you're curious, I don't see the harm in you sending him a text something along the lines of "Hey, I had a great time with you on [whatever day]. I'd love to do that again without [friend's name] this time lol" (keep it light but be straight up about it)