I am having lunch today with a girl I like who works with me. This will be the first time we dine together. I like her but she doesn't know that. It's not a lunch date or anything. Should I pay for our meal or we each pay for our stuff? I was raised to always pay for the girl but my friend told me since it's not a date and we only have a co worker relationship right now I don't need to. I am still confused on what I should do. Anybody have any suggestions? Thanks for ur input!
Most Helpful Girl
do it if you want to, don't do it if you don't want to. You are going out with a colleague, technically you don't have to... But if you feel comfortable and would like to do so, go ahead and offer and see what she says.. If she really prefers to pay for herself, then let her.. If she doesn't mind you paying after you offer, then go ahead..
There are no such rules about these things. Just do what feels comfortable to you and see how she reacts... Unless she is extremely aagainst it or extremely towards you need to pay then decide for yourself whether you want to continue asking her out :)0
Most Helpful Guy
Dude, if you like her then throw a jab, pick up the tap and see what her response is.
You don't want to read too deep into the meaning of the lunch, you want to see her reaction.
If there is something then she will go with the polite response 'oh you don't have to' then you follow with some witty line about how she will have other opportunities like another lunch next week.
If she shut you down with a split the bill and insist on it then you might want to back down. No point in pursuing an unlikely target.0