I indentify as black even though I'm biracial (black and white) and I have mostly black girl friends, there is four of us and only two of us like white guys but none likes us, and me personally it saddens me because I like black guys too, but I have no idea why I like white dudes, a lot of the white guys say "black girls are so ghetto" "black girls are fat and disgusting" and other stuff that's not true about all of us, I'm just curious why. I don't find myself or my friend as desperate for white guys and we don't want to be white, we just like them a lot but we struggle to find any that will talk to us. If anyone is curious I'm 16 and I'm gonna be a junior this year. (Since im anonymous)
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Because millions of years of evolution through natural selection have created a strong own-group preference in all races.
This means that people of one race are wired to find the physical characteristics of other races to be unattractive, even repulsive.
Muhammed Ali dealt with the matter rather well. See:
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Stereotypes and internalized racism are usually the most common reasons. Some probably don't think we'd be into them. I'm older than you and half black and I've never dated a black man. It's not because of preference or choice, it's just something that happened through the course of my life. I'm the type that gets along with everyone without giving a second thought to racial differences.
But growing up in a town with mostly blacks and Mexicans, I noticed throughout school that black boys and girls regarded me very cruelly. I was teased for liking anime and video games because that wasn't "black." I was teased for not speaking "black" enough. I was teased for not fully immersing myself into "black" music. The boys would rather insult me on sight than say "Good Morning." Despite all this I didn't have any negative feelings for them as a race because I identify as black and I was certainly treated as such by some non-blacks...
When it came to other races, I was treated rather well. Mexican, white, Asian, I made a lot of friends who didn't judge me for my interests. When it came to the opposite sex White/Hispanic and Mexican men were the kindest and most gentlemanly towards me. They were the ones who made their interest in me known and ask me out.
More than a decade after high school, things have not changed. Black guys make their little snide remarks they think I can't hear while everyone else treats me with respect. So as a result I've only ever been with white and Hispanic men. It could be just a local thing but that's just how everything panned out for me.1