I am asking because at my age (21) I am still in college and at this point woman dont concern themselves at all with a guy's job and career prospects. Its still all about finding a guy they are physically attracted to (tall, muscular, handsome etc) and who they can have fun and share a laughter with. Thats the priority (btw, I am not judging in any away, its just what I've observed).
But later down the road when woman are in their late 20s or so they will be looking to settle down in which case a guy's job and career should be prioritized right? You know the stereotype that woman only pursue the top 20% of men, does this mean that if a guy at that point a doctor or lawyer etc he'll automatically be upgraded to the top 20% assuming he's not an asshole and not a fat slob?
That is the mere fact that he's a doctor makes him top 20% guy just as the mere fact that a guy is tall, big, muscular, good looking makes him a top 20% in his early 20s?
Most Helpful Girl
Honestly I think it's not the job itself that's attractive, it's what comes with that. Like money, time, intelligence, etc.
A doctor sounds like a good partner, BUT most doctors have irregular schedules, and that can really mess with a relationship. If you're always getting called into surgery at night and then have to rest during the day, yeah that could totally affect your relationship.
Just like money can affect the relationship - are you making enough to provide for your lifestyle? As in, if you like to eat out a lot, are you making the money to do that? Making enough to have a place of your own? So women will only care how much a guy makes depending on his lifestyle: if she has expensive taste then yeah she's looking for someone who makes a lot. But if she has more of an average lifestyle, then she doesn't need anything more than an average salary.
Job can also become attractive when it shows off your skills. A lot of people look down on trade jobs like plumbers, mechanics, etc., but honestly those jobs show that you are handy and will be able to help around the house - instead of hiring a plumber you can do the work yourself.
So no, being a doctor does not automatically make you top 20%. Yes the money can be a big factor for some women, but other women don't care if you make as much as a doctor. Some women are more concerned with time than money, and if you can't spend any time with her because you're in surgery then being a doctor suddenly becomes unattractive. Being a doctor can help because it shows intelligence, but some doctors are also overly arrogant which can be a turn off.
Bottom line: job can definitely have an impact, but not in the direct way that you think.0
Most Helpful Guy
I would say maybe not as much as you think. Having a stable income and career is an *endearing* quality, it's not an attraction quality.
It doesn't tap into the instincts of luring a woman's gaze towards you.
It's like being a good cook might be an endearing female quality to some men who want a traditional household, but it's probably not exactly what attracts you to a woman.
I had the career thing going after university but I still had to make all sorts of adjustments to start attracting women. I was in decent physical shape from an active youth (six-pack), e. g. but I didn't understand the mindset to really draw a woman's attention. I was meek and timid.
A lot of the qualities that draw a woman's gaze will tend to be those masculine qualities such as these: (as a disclaimer, I am not saying all women are attracted to all of these)
1) strong physique (not just cut), but someone who looks like he can dominate.
All those kinds of qualities, the kind of person a leader of a group or a famous person might possess. There are some more neutral qualities as well like charisma, humor.
It's hard for any one person to possess all of these qualities, but you can somewhat project some. For example, even if you are a wealthy and powerful person, if you shower a woman with attention and offer to do all kinds of things to her, that tends to change the perception of you towards kind of a kiss-ass low-ranking servant, far from a powerful man or a rock star. At least that's the kind of effect it seems to have.
Likewise, even if you don't have much of a job but you have a group of friends who look up to you and follow you wherever you go, that gives off the impression of that leadership quality.
You probably already have a lot of those endearing qualities, but I think you have to find an angle to kind of be seen by women instinctively as a potential mate.0