Me and my girlfriend were both very close friends with someone who I'll call mike (using a fake name). However, things have gotten really bad recently, as it's become more and more obvious that mike is in love with my girlfriend. We used to all go out together, and he'd put up with me and my girlfriend flirting and sometimes make jokes out of it. However, recently he doesn't want us to go anywhere without him, and he's always trying to separate us. He always insists on being between us wherever we are, and he's repeatedly tried to flirt with my girlfriend by doing the following: Holding her hand, putting his arm around her and things similar to this. Normally, I'd beat the shit out of whoever is doing this, but he's been one of my best friends for years, as well as my girlfriends. I've talked to my girlfriend about it, and she agreed with me that he must be into her. She's assured me she has no feelings for him, which I believe, but she doesn't want to do anything about the endless flirting, since complaining will probably upset him. It's torturous for me however, since my time spent with my girlfriend is spent more on my phone while the two of them talk and make jokes and it sucks. I don't think she understands how drastic this situation is for me, since from her perspective she's just talking to her friend who has feelings for her. Help?
Most Helpful Girl
He has absolutely crossed a line and I'm stunned your girlfriend isn't more upset about him touching her. Even if he isn't threatening, it should still be a major boundary infraction for both of you. First, I would stop inviting him placed unless you're in a group setting with other friends. See if he takes a hint and backs off after some time and space. Second, I would have a stern talk with him about how he is being disrespectful to you and your relationship. A real friend would not do these things. I know that must be painful to hear, but he should have never put you in this position. He apparently values having a shot with your girlfriend more than he values you.0
Most Helpful Guy
You screwed up dude. Lessoned learned. Never let other dudes hang with you and your girl. Period. I would set your boundary and if she crosses it, you breaking off. If he dates her. Beat his ass good. He deserves it for interfering in your relationshipZ that's crossing the line big time.1