Well I wouldn't see him as useless, because maybe he's good at other things. However I don't think I PERSONALLY would want to be in a relationship with someone that didn't make me feel "safe". I know it's super traditional of me, but I'm a pretty small young woman, and like for example just the other day at work I had a customer who was just being a little too "friendly" and even a little "Handsy" and so my male supervisor (whose an at LEAST 6 foot tall mid twenties sort of guy) came over right away and stood there, asked if everything was okay, and then stayed with me throughout the rest of the time the handsy customer was there. The handsy man stopped immediately, but just having that particular supervisor there I felt a lot safer and more comfortable. Where as had it been a guy whose not really equipped to help if need be were there, I kind of think I would of been screwed.
My point is, is that even if I don't NEED the protection, I feel a lot better knowing that I have someone who can at least HELP if it's needed. If that makes sense.
Protect me? No, of course not. I would never want him to be put in a dangerous situation because of me. What I do expect is for him to support me and stand up for me. I also expect that of myself. Standing up for each other and supporting the other--sometimes even if we don't always understand why--is very important. I want us to have the other's backs.
Well if a woman can't reproduce, is she useless? By an evolutionary standpoint-yes. But do you still love her? You have to fight against your biological behaviors that were wired in your brain to do so. So yeah, it depends on the girl. Some like to stick up for themselves. Women are wired to feel protected and look for masculinity and men are wired to look for women that can reproduce (be a healthy weight and look hygienic) and can also care for a child. It's just... science.
Honestly every now and than I give myself that question :D hehehehe came to the conclusion that man that can protect me are more appealing for me but if I met a guy and like him and he would not be able to protect me well... to hell with it, if he can run than we're good, when we'll get in trouble then it will be... RUN FOREST RUUUN ! (and laugh afterwords )
Protectiveness to me is someone who stands by me and will protect me when I am confronted with REAL danger. I don't need him to always stand up for me because guys get into fights a lot quicker and I don't want drama around me. It's little things that matter, walking me home at night, making sure I'm safe. To answer your question, no he wouldn't be useless. You hardly need anyone to protect you nowadays. But he has to have that protectiveness in him. That's a must. It can be just looking out for you. Just standing next to her to show others that you are there. Little things.
No, we have to learn to protect ourselves if a guy I know or a stranger say me indetress and they helped out I'd be very thankful. But if they ran away and didn't even bring police back and we're just gone I'd be upset. Like there are so many ways to help people without you getting hurt
I'd want him to speak up for me if it was a life or death situation, and I would do the same for him. if he was getting beat up I'd jump in. You should do whatever you can for the ones that you love even if it means putting your ass on the line. In all honesty though, I'd want him to be willing to but really I rather him be quiet if it happened. I'd play hero if he was in trouble but if I was I rather take the beating and hope for the best then have him get involved. Double standerd I know. Just the idea of something happening to him makes me sick though.