I see this everywhere it seems like.
Like someone who you're with do you care about their past?
Because you may think im wrong but i dont believe people change
Like someone who lies and cheats always will
If they're not getting what they want theyll lie and cheat again.
When they come back to you they're probably lying on the person they cheated on you with.
And i need to know about the past
How many people they were with etc
Because if they were with a lot of people before you theyll probably be with a lot after you.
I need to know if they've ever cheated
If they lie and say know then its just proving they didn't change
So no i can't just ignore the past ill tell my past truthfully and i expect the same
And people who say the past doesn't matter
Are usually the ones with the worst past
- Yes the past matters56% (66)68% (66)62% (132)Vote
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Most Helpful Girl
You better know their past, because it effect your future. You don't want to get involve with anybody who is secretive about it. Mainly their sex life. Because now they will feel comfortable lying to know and next thing you know you caught something or you married a liar. They will take advantage of you even when sometimes they didn't mean to do so purposely. This happened to my mother at 13, and ended up with HPV because they guy never told her he had sex with multiple prostitutes before, and she was a virgin. She recently died of cervical cancer at 44 and I'm now 24. Don't risk it. Know their past. And yes, you do need to make judgements not only for your safety but for their's as well. You have to judge to make better healthier decisions, but in the end, still respect them, still love them regardless of the past mistakes.6
Most Helpful Guy
It matters in that there are certain things I could hear that would make me lose interest in the girl.
However I'm not sure it's worth asking. First off, a lot of girls react negatively to being questioned about their past. They will try to turn it around on you and start labeling you as judgmental, insecure, or having a small dick. Its just not worth the drama in my opinion.
Also even if they answer, there's a good chance they are lying and leaving out a few of their miscellaneous hookups from the overall tally.
So personally, I think its best to just assign a sexual history to them based on how they present themselves, their personal beliefs, what they do for fun, who they hang out with, etc.