Not feeling confident lately, I never seem to get interest from guys ever. Even in clubs where most girls are approached, I'm completely ignored. I'm worried it might be my looks cause in a club that's all that matters. I'm 5'6 and 8 stone. I have a fit body in general. Other than clubs I don't really know where to meet guys cause they never seem interested. Any advice? :)
Ah yes. I know exactly what your problem is. You got what I like to affectionately call "pretty girl bitch syndrome". A lot of attractive girls go to clubs with their attractive friends to dance and get free drinks off guys with no intention of meeting guys unless she either a) knows them or b) is really attracted to them to the point where she wants a one night stand.
The average guy doesn't stand a chance and is usually unceremoniously flipped off by these girls. Therefore, unless the guy is extremely confident he's not gonna make a move on a girl that looks like you. Unless of course you make yourself extremely approachable and open, but something tells me you don't do this and give off the "stay the fuck away from me" vibe.
You appear unapproachable if... you have resting bitch face are in a big group of people appear busy e. g being on your phone look taken, e. g being with a male friend or wearing a ring on your ring finger break eye contact too quickly
Do you expect any guy to come up to you just like that? So you could then assert if you take it or not? It may work that way, but it is much more guaranteed if you choose your prey. Lock eyes with it, play the game, build up the interest, and then he'll approach you.
All it takes is a couple of lingering looks.. that's it.
Are you approachable? What's your body language like?
As for everyday life away from clubs, people are just busy and don't necessarily have the time to be approaching girls and trying to graft. They may have important things to attend to which require more attention.
Maybe it's because you spell girl as "gurrlll" :D But in all honesty if you're the one in this DP, I wouldn't wait a second before approaching you, unless ofcourse I would get intimidated because of your looks. In that case I will need some drinks before approaching
Black and brown guys don't approach you? They worship, cat-call and hit on every girl they see. Hard to believe, really, that they won't approach you. White guys, yeah, we don't approach often. Me personally, I actually never approach women. But that's just me.
I know average girls who get hit on a lot and gorgeous girls who never seem to get one guy. While looks certainly help, body language, behavior and facial expressions are more important. In clubs, flirting is easy: be a good dancer, act confident and smile at cute guys who look your way. Introduce yourself to people. Meet friends of friends. Laugh a lot, keep your back straight. Good posture makes a big difference.
Make yourself approachable! I'm not telling you to change, but if you want to be noticed (which obviously you do), you need to dress up and smile and be flirty. Guys in parties mostly look for hookups, if you act like the next Mother Theresa they won't spare you a glance lol.