If you put on a false facade to get a girl, she will soon pick up on the fact you aren't being yourself and will trust you less and you may lose the girl altogether. You want someone who loves you when you're being yourself, that's how you find life long love. If you found someone when you have a facade on, it's not easy to keep up that look forever. That's basically what people are saying.
Thing is, women want a man who just gets it. A natural. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iEybK_CujtM If you have to have it explained... you're already failing. That's why you ask men for dating advice, not women. Women will tell you, in a way, what they instinctively want. Men will more often tell you things the same way they'd tell you how to get a job or change your oil or such--they will tell you what works for them and how to do it.
It's only bad advice if something's actually wrong with you, to be blunt about it. We all have something odd about us, and sometimes our quirks drive people away. Like sometimes I joke around too much and annoy people. So I'm working on dialing it back. Try to look inwardly and find if there's anything you're doing or projecting that's a turn off to women. Maybe a close friend can help pinpoint the problem.
Call me naïve but it's the BEST advice if you want a profound relationship, in my opinion. If girls can't compromise once you show your truest colors, it's their ultimate loss. With compromises come sacrifices.
Be yourself doesn't mean be inflexible. Be yourself is a dynamic thing. At heart, you have your values, your interests, your quirks. Those are what should always stay the same unless you genuinely feel differently. You should look into changing what you think may help you. Like, work on your flaws or go out more to settings where couples meet more. You want to be yourself but also make yourself the best version of yourself you can be.
Well if you are yourself and the girl doesn't like you then you two were not meant for eachother/a good couple.
You never want to be someone else and not yourself period not only when dating. Those idiots date someone and lie about everything (For example: she says "I love ____" he says "😱OMG I love ____ too!!!" When he really doesn't he just wants to seem like they both have things in common)
If you can't seem to get any chick to date you than it may not be who you are trying to date but your behavior/characteristics and stuff. Maybe you are too immature, arrogant, annoying etc. (not saying you actually are) Just be yourself, do what you like to do, talk about things you are interested in, and find someone that likes you for who you are. Best of luck man! 😎
To me "just be yourself" and "just be confident" can be horrible advice to guys who really don't get any.
It's something a lot of those obnoxious "nice guys" understand intimately when a girl tells them, "Aww, you're going to make a great boyfriend to a lucky girl out there", only to then say "bye" and chase after guys with totally different qualities.
If you want to step up your game, you have to "be attractive". That's all there is to it. Just being yourself and being confident isn't necessarily going to do that. Some guys need a little bit more of a boost to catch female attention in the same way some women need cosmetics to catch male attention.
Confidence can almost always boost your sex appeal, but not necessarily enough to start having girls become attracted to you.
It works if "yourself" is something that's liked by women you like and you get to meet plenty of women of that type. Otherwise, no, not so much: you're gonna have to hange yourself a little, pick up hobbies, etc... women often won't notice you're not 100% passionate about those things you changed, mostly because they're doing the same thing to attract men.
Also if you're ugly enough even a very interesting personality won't always cut it.
Everyday you get to be the best you you can be, and with 30-35 years that should be one hell of a best you. The real question is are you really working on being the best you you can be? You get out of life what you put in, so if you don't put in the work you ain't going to get much I'm return.
Well if you are looking to get laid you can probably put on a mask and be the person they want you to be. If you are looking anything long term such as a partner then you need to be 100% yourself otherwise you will not be happy.
That kinda depends on how" yourself" really is. Like if you're gonna walk up to them and be like " hey I'd like to fuck you" that's bad. But if you're respectful towards her then yes it will work to a degree. But how do you normally act?
Being yourself works just try to not be certain parts of yourself like guys have a dumb fun stupid side to them where they do things like jackass try not to use that side of you when talking to a girl try to use the romantic side of you and a little bit of your sexual side also.
It's good advice, though it's not really that women will like you, just when a women does like you she will like the real you
Being yourself only works if your hot and have money.