He's not my boyfriend yet but it was official to happen once we get closer to eachother, distance wise. His bestfriend is a girl and when we first started talking, he'd bring her up at the most random moments. I said I wanted a spine tattoo. "My bestfriend has a spine tattoo" "my bestfriend this, my bestfriend that". I instantly felt some type of way because why you keep bringing her up. So the other night I said I don't think I'm going to like her and he instantly got defensive about it. "Idk why, you don't even know her etc. Yesterday our conversation led back to it and he said that's an oh well situation as if to say , I might as well get over it because she not going anywhere. We literally argued all day and almost called it quits because of it. He said he was disappointed because he'd think I'd understand and be able to trust him in a situation like that. He kept saying I'm the only girl he wants, etc. Told him that hurt my feelings, he just says he's sorry for everything he did but he still doesn't see the problem. He compared it to how one day I said I needed time, no correlation in my opinion. I never said I wanted him to stop talking to her , just that I didn't like her. Unfortunately, based of this I don't think I want to be with him anymore. I've dated guys with girl bestfriends but I knew it was nothing. I have a bad feeling about this one and his reactions isn't making it any better. Thoughts? Am I overreacting?
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As you are some distance from each other it does make it more difficult o accept an opposite sex best friend you have never met. If he cannot understand your misgivings then he is being insensitive to you.
It may all be innocent, but you need to meet her, with an open mind, and judge for yourself.
You need to be in a very strong loving relationship to accept this situation.
Any good relationship must be based on mutual trust, honesty and respect, otherwise it will fail.2