He's told me he's not a texter. He also works crazy hours during the week, and that's usually when the communications wanes a bit... but how hard is it to send a text, haha. Are there girls out there who have experienced this, or guys who know they're guilty of this? Help me understand!
Most Helpful Guy
I'm guilty of this big time.
I work in a software engineering field where the industry is still competing when it comes to new techniques with new algorithms and data structures being published all the time.
My brain is often completely absorbed when I'm in that zone where I'm trying to innovate a new way of doing things that beats the rest, working things out on the whiteboard, verifying the math, building simulations that demonstrate a proof of concept. It doesn't even shut off when I'm going to sleep.
I find, during those times, that I might not text back for a week. The entire rest of the world just tends to slip my mind in those cases where I feel like I need so much brainpower that my brain is operating at 110% capacity.1
Most Helpful Girl
I've experienced it all. Some guys are super into texting, want to talk all the time. Whereas there are other guys who could care less about texting. He's already told you that he's not a texter.
It's also probably in part due to his hectic schedule. The only way to fix this is to talk to him about it. I would set down some ground rules. Let him know what kind of communication would would like and need from him. Hopefully he can understand that and is able to do that. But if not, maybe you need to compromise. Is he spending time with you? Do you feel like a priority in his life?
Is the need for texting simply just a need to communicate or is there something more that you require from him?
Usually when I am with a non-texting dude, I usually try to keep busy. Fill my life with activities. It gives me something to talk to them about when I do end up getting ahold of them.1