in high school i met this guy who seemed to like me but i had a boyfriend so i didn't pay much attention to him just saw him as a friend, but then after we graduated we somehow still stayed in touch and would see each other ones in a while and one thing lead to another, we are dating now. he told me that he did like me when we just met and that my appearance really grabbed his attention and that he found me to be really attractive. to be honest i wasn't surprised at all because i get that a lot and i very rarely have trouble attracting guys but still it was nice to hear and he still constantly compliments me all the time, BUT the thing is that while we were friends and he was really open with me, to the point where he talked about who he found attractive (like celebrities and random instagram girls), they were always either hispanic (like him) or white with darker features. he at one point even said that tan skin is better then white skin. well guess what. i have pale skin, blond hair, blue eyes. i've always been proud of my features because well why shouldn't someone feel proud of how they look? but for the first time, in a way i feel insecure. he doesn't talk about other girls now of course because we're dating now and yeah he's always telling me im beautiful and this and that, but i've been his friend i've seen what he likes. i dont know what to think of it all.
Most Helpful Guy
I don't understand. Why do you feel insecure? He told you he likes girls with dark skin and you have pale skin. You are obviously NOT his type of girl, PERIOD. I would understand if you had reasons to doubt, but it's pretty clear here. Understand that you cannot possibly be beautiful for everybody. Understand that you are beautiful for lots of men. Now with that said, the fact that you are not his type doesn't mean he cannot appreciate your beauty. If he says you are beautiful, then you better believe he does think so. There would be no point to lying. Better to just say nothing.
None of the women I have loved have been my type. I loved them nonetheless.1
Most Helpful Girl
I can understand this a bit. I had a friend like that in high school. He was so open with me about what and who he was attracted to that sometimes I would feel insecure about little things he would say. I never wanted anything with him but it still got to me. I summed it up as me wanting him to only think of me and waiting him to boost my ego lol1