She never mentioned it to me before and all the sudden she tells me after I've slept with him for three months. I don't hang out with guys that have girlfriends so this made me feel awful. I haven't spoken to either of them since but he doesn't know that I know. We made plans to see each other again and I m just not showing up. Why wouldn't she tell me? Should I confront them both? I really don't want to involve myself in drama right now. Really super bummed right now.
Yeah that's not cool of her. You can decide to confront her or not, but I would not talk to the dude again. She is your friend so I would at least say something or talk to her about it and decide what to do from there
I'd be very upset if my friend didn't tell me that. It's very deceitful. My friends would know in the end I'd be the one getting getting hurt due to his deceit and lies , so I'd be questioning my friends motives for not telling me. 3 months is a long time to hold back from telling you that.
If it was my friend in this situation I'd tell her as soon as I discovered the truth about him. I'd feel I'd betrayed her if I kept that from her. Plus, I'd be helping to set her up for heartbreak by withholding it for so long. Its really devious
I'm sorry, this sounds like a terrible situation. I would be really hurt and frustrated with both of them. It sounds like the guy clearly lied to you and your friend omitted the truth. I would be clear with the guy, that you know the truth and will not be a side women. There might be more to the story so it's better get the truth than come up with your own theories. Let your friend know that she betrayed your trust. Think about what she would have to do to earn your trust back, if you are still willing to have her in your life. Personally I would want to know why she chose to hold back vital info.