I don't believe in leagues. Beauty lies in the eye of the beholder. Leagues are just a way to let other people have opinions on your relationship, a way for them to discuss if the guy and girl are equally hot. Other people's opinions don't matter whatsoever, my future boyfriend will always be the hottest in my eyes, and people can think whatever they want, that won't have anything to do with our relationship 💁🏻
No one dates out of their league. It's human nature. I can prove it. Would you date a homeless guy? Of course you wouldn't. Why? You're out of his league. If you're in a relationship with someone who you believe is out of your league, rest assured you are not. They wouldn't be dating you if they were.
For example, a hot woman might be over-emotional and insecure. An equally hot guy would probably reject her opting for another hot woman who is not so crazy and less needy, where as a less attractive guy may be willing to put up with that needy behavior rather than date a woman who is less attractive.
Or another example. A guy who is ripped with 6 pack abs but is extremely feminine and shy around women would probably be rejected by equally hot women who wants a guy who is both ripped and confident. A less attractive woman might be willing to put up with his lack of confidence instead of dating a guy who is less attractive.
Neither is right or wrong. Everyone has different strengths and weakness to offer in a relationship and everyone values them a little differently. The key is to 1, always be improving yourself, and 2, look for people who value the same things you do. For example, if you have a passion for circus performing finding a partner who also has a passion for circus performing will make them more likely to overlook other areas where you might be lacking, and vice versa. Follow those two rules and you will maximize the quality of partner you are able to attracted.
I don't think that there should be such things as leagues. If anything it just makes people feel bad about themselves. Mismatched coupling happens all the time! There is nothing wrong with it if both parties are happy. I think we need to stop assuming people are settling just because we think the couple is mismatched. Perhaps they are both over the moon about each other?
I think we all have an idea of what our league is. But why let that have so much bearing on who we date? You can date whoever you want, as long as they want to date you too!
Leagues are entirely psychological. I dated a guy "below my league" and we were good, he became more attractive as I fell for him. I then dated a guy I felt was out of my league, but seemed to be totally infatuated with me and I thought I was out of his league. He became more attractive and perfect to me as I fell in love with him. But when we broke up and he treated me terribly, cheated, lied etc, he soon became pretty ugly to me and I realised I was out of his league in terms of my morals and personality, at least.
Yes, physically... but he had no job, no car, and wasn't going to college. He also smoked a lot of cigarettes and you know what LOL!! I wouldn't call him classy, and his only pros were he was cute, hot and nice!!!
Honestly know one is out of any bodies league. After getting to know a person the most unbelievable shhh can happen. I've seen some odd pairings visually, but they work! It all comes down to well honestly... Good timing lmao😂 people can't even decide what they want for lunch let a lone in a person/partner. Majority of the time it's all about confidence, y'all mf's better fake it til you make it and watch how quickly shhhh changes. #TheGODDESSHasSpoken that is ALLL! 👌
Usually when I date someone, the whole "league" thing doesn't matter, because I really fall in love with that person and their flaws don't matter to me. I've never been intimidated about the attractiveness of either of my two previous boyfriends though. I thought my first boyfriend was all that at the time, but apparently, according to my friends and family, I was always the better looking one in both relationships. That may just be them being biased because they are partial to me though.
Yeah, I thought that he was "out of my league" because he was so smart, and he was excellent in sports, and he was a surfer, and everone loved him. So I dated him, and then I realized that he's a jerk who thinks that he's better then everyone and showes of so people will admire him... He doesn't even work out, and the last time he surfed was last year... Now I don't believe in this "out of my league" thingy because its a lie.
I often felt that: I think mainly because of my job.
I'm a software engineer by trade. I make a decent amount, not rich by any means. Most of all, this kind of job is very boring and antisocial: I write code, devise new algorithms and data structures, and work out the math on a drawing board.
It's extremely nerdy. The saving grace for me is maybe because I do have a physique, am out-going and like to party and socialize. But I still have one of the nerdiest jobs on the planet.
I once managed to date a model who told me about her job and how she traveled to the Caribbean, went scuba diving there in between photo shoots, etc. I really didn't have much interesting to say about my work in response. I'm like, "Uhh... I sit on a computer and write C code a lot while getting customer bug reports and investigating the root causes" -- not exactly the type of thing that gets girls to pull down their panties.
So I often felt kind of out of my league. I'm kind of a nerd who found a way to fluke my way to some trophy girlfriends now and then.
if you have something that they don't usually have, like a sense of humor that they really like, or you can cook, and turn them on, feeding them sensually decadent chocolate desserts, maybe 'accidentally' dripping a bit, here and there, and having to clean it up. . . Just a short time thing, though. Her Hater GFs will talk her out of how much fun she has, because you're not in her class!! Shallow fools. . .
I usually don't believe in such a thing, but for one specific girl in my past. It cannot be denied that she way was out of my league on looks and finances.
She was worth well over a million, had an incredible body, and knew how to dress herself very well. She was confident, go getter, ambitious, articulate, intelligent, and again... very pleasing to the eyes. Sadly, she was fucking nuts in the end and pretty much ruined it after a good 6 months, but damn... good times... really good times (except for the crazy). Oh, and to help clarify on her looks. She was once a model, but stopped as her boobs became too big for the gig she had and she decided to go into another industry afterwards.
Any who, I'm married now to a woman who has some resemblance of sanity within her, and very happy.
I've dated people that other considered out of my "league".
I'm not bad looking apparently and past the women focus more on personality then anything else. The only time I've ever thought about this theory is when questions come up like this online. I've never had a problem with it in real life.
I'd say this theory is what holds a lot of people back. If you consider yourself high you miss out on good people "below you" (although I don't think they miss out with this kind of attitude). If you have self doubt you miss out on people though shyness of fear. It's better to just chance it. Worst that can happen is a no.
Yup, my last three girlfriends were out of my league, all i did was just stepped up my game and was myself and confident, even with my last girlfriend, she was in great shape n gorgeous and perfect and i still won her heart even when i was overweight at the time and constantly had pain doctor apointments