It seems like every guy in this world hates me. They only want me for hookups and stuff and nothing else. For example they'd treat other girls well or even post status saying I wanna treat you well and I wanna take someone out... etc but when it comes to me they always invite me over to their place and when I ask why they say it's to do sexual stuff and I ofcourse say no then they stop talking to me. I just don't get why do guys like other girls and also wanna be friends with them but when it comes to me they all hate me and only want hookups? They don't even try to get to know me they just look at me and then ask to do stuff like that
3mo I'm talking about random guys online ex-app called Meetme, pof... etc
You're seen as an easy "yes" girl, and a path of no resistance to sex. In other words, guys don't see you as very attractive for either your personality or looks.
That's not me deliberately insulting you. I'm analyzing this from how guys have reacted to your objection. They expected an easy lay because of how you carry yourself, and you didn't meet expectations, so they bounced.
You need to stop pretending that you're just as attractice or dynamic as these other girls, and learn how to set the right expectations through your body language and demeanor. Dont just say yes to guys hoping and praying you will be treated differently. You won't. Learn to say no, even if the guy is hot to you. Make him work hard and understand you. You also need to let hot guys walk away because of this, but remember they were never in it for the right reasons.
First things first; Guys are VERY visual, not even an understatement! The first thing they will see are you breasts. Don't show off your breasts in pictures because that indicates a booty call or a hook up and to me personally when I look at that photo; looks like a hook up and you want sexual attention rather than personality attraction (no offense!) You look stunning and beautiful! You have to show guys that your more than just an amazing figure but indicate to them that you want a relationship/date. Wear more clothes that cover your cleavage and make sure that you know when to say no. Boys like to test to see how far you will go with them and if your going all the way then there is no reason for them to hang around since they got what they came for? :)
Goddamn, you are gorgeous! The first thing my primitive brain told me is: I wouldn't mind having sex with her. Not: I would like to take her out and have a drink. Maybe that's the problem? They want to have sex even before they get to know you. They'll have sex with you and then after, decide whether or not they want to pursue further. That's not really good for you. Have you tried getting to know guys before they see you? I would wait until they are willing to meet you to see you.
Hard to say, but maybe they do not view you as date worthy? It could be they don't like something about you, think you would have no interest in them, or it could be the places you are finding these guys
honestly from what your telling us.. it seems they have zero interest in your personality or in actually getting to know you.. So that would tell me that you are very unattractive but maybe have large breast or some such thing.. its hard to tell without a photo
You look good. Maybe showing less cleavage in your online pics will get you some responses from guys who don't just see boobs. Anyway you can't judge the guys of the world by the ones on online sites. Have you tried getting out in RL to meet people?
Firstly, your gorgeous. Second, i think they see boobs in your pic and think "wow! I wonder if she's DTF?" And lastly, online dating is a lot like going to dump and trying to find a valuable there. Sure, it's not impossible, but you're going to run into a lot of shit before you find something worthwhile.
It's hard to tell for sure. Maybe you are picking out some pretty bad guys, or maybe you might be giving off the wrong vibes unintentionally.
You're pretty :)
As someone who also has this problem, let me tell you it's definitely them and not you! From what you wrote you sound like a "nice" girl, and you are definitely gorgeous! I'm sure when guys look at you, they want that stuff because of how attractive you are. It just sounds like you're meeting all the sex-obsessed jerks (which lets be honest, there's a lot of them!) don't get discouraged, and just remember, it's really their loss not yours!! :)