Have been seeing someone for about 6 weeks who I met on Match. We got together once a week (bad work schedule), and talked on the phone a couple of hours per night. It had gone SO well and everything was great until things started escalating. He knew I didn't do casual/no strings attached sex and was very respectful.
He first said two or so weeks in, "I'd love to be in a relationship with you. I realize it hasn't been long..." I didn't really respond. Another week went by and he said again, "I'd love to be in a relationship with you... once we get to know each other a little better." Still, I didn't say anything. I wasn't really sure if he was asking. Fast forward to 5 weeks... I know he's really looking to move things along, which is great. Well, he asked once more. This particular time he said, "what have I got to do? Get on bended knee?" I asked for what. he said, “to ask you to be exclusive.” I said that I didn’t really know if he was being serious or joking. What I thought was his way of joking around asking about the bended knee, I now think he was upset and meaning, “what do I have to do…get on my knees and beg?”
Well, that was 4 days ago… What used to be a regular, easy, fun relationship has turned silent. I tried to do a little damage control and he did say he would call on the way home from work…didn’t happen. I wrote him a very thoughtful email explaining everything and apologizing for my behavior and saying I did want to be exclusive but had acted out of fear. I asked that he call rather than email back if he wanted to discuss it. I have heard nothing in 4 days!
Is he gone for good? Did I castrate him? This was someone who was very interested and now complete silence. I made an honest attempt to fix things…now he’s disappeared. Opinions? I didn’t do it on purpose…I was truly confused. Punishment, hurt or just moved on?
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I guess that you have never heard of the old rule, three strikes and you're out. He gave you three chances and you blew every one of them, so he probably decided that you either weren't interested enough in him or would be too much work (both of which he would have been completely justified to conclude).
You wrote an e-mail? Really? He may or may not have read it. I get so much junk e-mail in every address that I'd probably never even notice it. You should call or text him.2
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Open Lines of Convo, right from the Start here, dear, is the Most Important factor in any New or Old Relationship. Without it, things can Be... Truly confusing, as you have found out.
By Silence is what you thought Golden, it put a Big Sour ball in his Mouth, and hopefully now, the Special Something you both had going, has not gone South.
Give him some time to Absorb your email here, dear. maybe he is being Locked lip on his own end to sort of "Punish" you and make you Sweat, like he did all of those Weeks with no reply.
However, if he never Replies, then move on from him. You don''t Need a Grudge Bearer neither.
This has taught you a Little Lesson in Life to be more 'Open' but also if Someone cannot accept a Heartfelt Apology, then he is not Worth any of the Time down a Love Line.
Good luck and Wait it out for now. xx0