I met my boyfriend about 2 years ago and we've been dating ever since and it's so amazing. Well we've become really serious to now thinking about marriage!! And I'm so happy at the thought of us starting a life together. But the thing is I've never introduced him to my family as they are racist and wouldn't like him. So what do I do?
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I had the same issue when I dated a black woman (I'm half-Japanese, half-American).
My American side of the family wouldn't tolerate it, they're Bible-thumping religious types with hidden racist tendencies. I tried showing photos of us together to my mother and she started turning all passive-aggressive about it, saying vague things like how she doesn't agree with my "lifestyle choices".
I didn't want to expose my girl to that environment, knowing how unwelcome she'd be made to feel. Our relationship didn't work out (I had to move and it became long-distance), but if I married her, it would have been without the blessing of my mother.
You might try gently talking to your parents first about it without him. If they can't accept, I would have gone for marriage without their blessing. It's kind of sad to lack your parents' blessing, but excluding them in this way when you first gave them an opportunity might make them warm up to you when they realize the consequences of their actions.1
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