I met this guy almost a year ago in a class we had together. We became really good friends and talked all the time, but nothing more than that because I had a boyfriend at the time. Earlier this year my boyfriend and I split up and I took a few months before I decided I was ready to tell this guy how I felt. When I did finally decide to tell him I kept it brief and simple, saying that I had a crush on him for a while and I knew he was busy between work and school so I didn't really expect anything to come from it. It took a few days to text me back but when he did he basically said that he was flattered and that he really didn't know what to say. We've remained friends since then and the other day I finally came out and said look I hope it didn't make things weird between us when I told you how I felt about you, and I hope the friendship isn't weird. He replied by saying it wasn't weird and he thought it was really sweet, and that he thinks I'm really attractive, but he's just got a lot going on right now and didn't know what to say. I feel like it's pretty clear he's not interested the same way that I am, and that I should probably just focus on preserving the friendship, but I want to be sure before I close that door forever. He still texts me all the time, likes all my pictures, snaps me almost every day and tells me how amazing I am, but that could all be purely platonic. What should I do guys?
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What no girls replied to this one? sheesh. Anyway, it is good you told your friend, how you feel. In fact it wouldn't be a bad idea to tell him, that if you would like a relationship, and if he is ready for a relationship that he should he tell you as well. However, you may be thinking too much into his response. Relationships can be complicated especially for someone who has been single, and has chosen to be single. He may be focusing on his studies, and his finances. He may also looking to build a life for himself before settling down for a relationship. Today it is harder for people to consider relationships, or making a family because of the problems with making money, and hoping to find a position in life where no one has to worry about the next day. If he is always busy with school, and work, then yes he trying to build a future for himself. He is not thinking about a relationship until he knows he doesn't have to worry about where his next pay check comes from, or whether or not he will finish school with a degree that can guarantee his future for a great career. Having a relationship, which leads to taking care of someone else, and possiblity of a child in the mix, can make his already hard life, harder.
I am not saying he doesn't want a relationship at all, but would like to know that if he starts one, he can live it peacefully without worrying about his finances. I mean its hard as it is for a single guy to make his bill payments, work a lot of hours a week making next to nothing cause everything is so expensive, and to focus on studying for that exam, without having to add to the basket. In fact maybe once everything plays out nicely and he has his degree, he will be able to relax better and have a great fmaily life. I know thats how i feel right now.0