My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year, and he is perfect. He is everything I find attractive wrapped up into one perfect male specimen. He is 6'2", dark thick brown hair, glacier blue eyes, freckles, tattooed, both a mans man and a ladies man, perfect body. I'm 5'2", pale: almost transparent, short blonde hair, dull grey eyes, I lack curves, geeky, by no means have a flat stomach. Every time we go out I see women look at him, one woman actually stole him from me one night on the dance floor by grabbing his butt and forcibly turning him around to face her. Another, on that same night ran her hand up his shirt. He always avoids their advances, and I don't think he would cheat on me. I have always been confident, but being with him has made me realize I may not be as pretty as I thought. My question is, how do I take this all in stride? How do I brush off these advances, and stop letting it impact my self-esteem? I've attached pictures of both my boyfriend and I.
Most Helpful Guy
If he is perfect in every way, he must know himself very well. That means that he must know what he is looking for in a woman, his eyesight is pretty damned good, and he recognized all of that in you when he saw you.
You're right, there are other women who are hotter than you - physically - to other guys. There always will be. And he probably thinks that there are other guys who are more attractive than him. But to you, he is the hottest thing in town. And to him, you are the complete package.
If he is that great, he knows that he is attractive to other women, he doesn't need to settle for the first girl who wants to give him a kiss, and he isn't a Shallow Hal. Give him some credit.
By the way, physical attractiveness is very subjective. Not every guy wants the same thing. Some guys actually prefer girls with small boobs but every girl thinks that 36D is an ideal bust size. Not every guy wants a blonde haired, blue eyed cheerleader type. You are a very cute girl and you have a look that reminds me of a young Sandy Duncan (actress from 1960's and 1970's) or a young Cathy Rigby (Olympic gymnast from the 1960's).1
Most Helpful Girl
This is coming from a woman who's been with men that have LITERALLY asked me and said, "Why are you with me? You're too good looking to be with someone like me."
BECAUSE of your personality. SOMETHING about you makes him love you.
If you're sweet, caring, thoughtful, etc. He recognizes that and appreciates you.
STAY confident. WHY? Because out of ALL of the other women he COULD have, that man loves YOU and wants YOU. Show him he made the right choice <31