My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year, and he is perfect. He is everything I find attractive wrapped up into one perfect male specimen. He is 6'2", dark thick brown hair, glacier blue eyes, freckles, tattooed, both a mans man and a ladies man, perfect body. I'm 5'2", pale: almost transparent, short blonde hair, dull grey eyes, I lack curves, geeky, by no means have a flat stomach. Every time we go out I see women look at him, one woman actually stole him from me one night on the dance floor by grabbing his butt and forcibly turning him around to face her. Another, on that same night ran her hand up his shirt. He always avoids their advances, and I don't think he would cheat on me. I have always been confident, but being with him has made me realize I may not be as pretty as I thought. My question is, how do I take this all in stride? How do I brush off these advances, and stop letting it impact my self-esteem? I've attached pictures of both my boyfriend and I.
3mo Okay so I think a lot of people have not gotten the whole idea of what I meant. It's not just about looks. He is far smarter, more talented, funnier, more active, and more together than I could ever be. He can pick up any book and memorize it in one read, he learns songs and plays them from one listen, he sounds like Johnny friggin' cash when he sings. He is just a mind blowing person and I'm over here like meh I'm literate.
If he is perfect in every way, he must know himself very well. That means that he must know what he is looking for in a woman, his eyesight is pretty damned good, and he recognized all of that in you when he saw you.
You're right, there are other women who are hotter than you - physically - to other guys. There always will be. And he probably thinks that there are other guys who are more attractive than him. But to you, he is the hottest thing in town. And to him, you are the complete package.
If he is that great, he knows that he is attractive to other women, he doesn't need to settle for the first girl who wants to give him a kiss, and he isn't a Shallow Hal. Give him some credit.
By the way, physical attractiveness is very subjective. Not every guy wants the same thing. Some guys actually prefer girls with small boobs but every girl thinks that 36D is an ideal bust size. Not every guy wants a blonde haired, blue eyed cheerleader type. You are a very cute girl and you have a look that reminds me of a young Sandy Duncan (actress from 1960's and 1970's) or a young Cathy Rigby (Olympic gymnast from the 1960's).
First, consider the following - if he's really that perfect he will have no problem finding an attractive woman. But in stead of running around with supermodels he's with you. That means that of all the opportunities and other women out there, he has determined you offer the best possible combination of features compared to everyone else he has met. Meaning in his eyes you're far superior to all the other women you think are more than you.
Second, the way men and women evaluate women are very different. Just because you don't believe you fit the standard of hot and attractive woman doesn't mean he should. And I have to agree with him - you're quite attractive. ;)
Third - there is no such thing as "league". Get it out of your head. You either want to be with someone or you don't. If you start thinking in terms of league you're not talking about actual feelings but about one's ego. There's nothing wrong with being proud with and impressed by your other half. Enjoy it as much as you can. You never know how long you have.
He's with you for a reason. I bet he thinks the same of you, that you're perfect and out of his league.
If he had girls throwing themselves at him, and he could have any girl, don't you think you must have something special that makes him stay? He chose YOU over all those other girls. You must be pretty damn awesome to him.
Stop worrying, cause that's just gonna bring problems.
Way out of your league? Wtf You're beautiful wait wait wait let's flip this. How did he get someone beautiful like you, damn son. If he doesn't keep you, you want to chill? lmao Maybe he's out of your league. Lmao, but seriously don't say negative things about yourself, he choose you for a reason. Of course, women are going to be looking at him hell I'm not surprised if guys are looking at you. The point is you both choose each other out of a numerous amount of people where you live or so. So, no one is out of anyone's league.
Just consider yourself lucky and keep doing what you do which was probably why he wanted (and still wants) to be with you in the first place. As for the other women, nothing wrong with letting em have a taste.. What, they get a couple scoops and gotta go, but its your damn ice cream machine and you can get scoops whenever.
You're pretty cute. I can tell, which is unusual, that he's a pretty good looking guy, so if he has good traits, i'm sure he has his pick of women.
He is choosing you.
Like I said, you're cute. Could he find someone slightly better looking? To be very blunt, maybe yes. But they wouldn't be -that- much better looking, because you ARE attractive. So if you have a lot of other qualities he loves, and you are attractive, I can understand why he'd choose that over some random girl who happens to be -slightly- better looking.
u are both equal looks wise
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y'all look good together. He's with you for a reason. Stop nit picking about what you hate about yourself and how you're not good enough for him. He's with YOU He sees SOMETHING attractive about you. That's all you need.
wish y'all luck. And you're gorgeous. boyfriend is lucky
well the fact that you see him as so perfect is definitely a good thing for your relationship. but the fact that you see yourself so negatively is not! for one thing, you are adorable. i don't know much about your talents or your personality but i'm sure you're as incredible as he is, especially in his eyes. just talk to him about it.
Egh, just quit being insecure. He wouldn't be with you if he didn't think you meet his standards. As for advances made by other girls, just tell him to actually let them know he's taken. He should walk away from situations like that, not allow them. Nobody should be able to "steal" him from you for the night.
You need to realize that he chose you, not those other women. You are really cute and he is handsome. I don't think either of you guys are out of each others leagues (I don't believe in leagues anyway lol). You guys make a cute couple😄