my boyfriend is really good to me and has never given me a reason not to trust him (well other then the fact that he's cheated on his ex girlfriend multiple times towards the end of their relationship. but it was only at the end when things were really going downhill and he was hoping she would be the one to break it off, he really tried to make it work but she wasn't putting in as much effort so he was just over it) but with me i know he's not cheating because he's always showing me off and im all over his social media and i know his friends and family. we are very serious about each other. but i have been feeling suspicious lately even though he hasn't done anything. maybe he is doing something behind my back that i dont know about, or can it just be because i feel guilty? in the beginning of our relationship i still talked to this other guy for a few weeks. pretending i was single.
Most Helpful Guy
showing you off and being all over his social media are not reasons to assume he's not cheating... but just saying
i think the fact that he did cheat, even if you say you don't worry, still causes you concern. sure he cheated when the relationship was going downhill BUT it still shows that push coming to shove he will do the dishonorable thing rahter than just confronting an issue (such as ending a relationship). so i think deep down in you there is a part of you that acknowledges that and therefore you have some distrust
it could also simply be you have been hurt or lied to in relationships or are a bit insecure as most people are1
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Most Helpful Girl
He's never given you reason to not trust him?
... are you serious? You don't think it would be perfectly reasonable to not be able to fully trust him if he cheated on the girl he was with before you multiple times? It doesn't matter if he was unfaithful towards her once, twice, towards the end of their relationship or the beginning. The complete lack of respect towards her as a person as well as the base of their relationship, 100% trust in each other, was all the same.
There's nothing that guarantees that he won't treat you in the exact same way. If you choose to stay with him, I'm sure you'll be busting your ass so that your relationship doesn't reach the 'already going downhill' stage anytime soon, in which case he'll feel that sticking his dick inside another girl will be perfectly justified.1