I think it's sweet and appreciated if a guy pays for the first date, but I never expect that out of him and don't let him pay for everything for any next date, because then I start to feel like I'm taking advantage of him. After I told that to the guy I'm seeing, we split the bill from the second to fourth dates, but on the fifth he says "so are you going to let me pay tonight?".
So it looks like he actually enjoys it, not that he feels like he is expected to do so. So why that is?
Most Helpful Guy
I don't think anyone genuinely enjoys paying for other people in any circumstance. In this case, men usually pretend to "enjoy" it, because women lose their fucking minds, and call us cheap assholes if we don't offer to pay for her. Even women who are somewhat modern and progressive will usually think to themselves "aw, it would've been much sweeter if he at least offered to pay for me", and usually get a negative first impression of us.
A lot of times, guys will pay for the first few dates to give a good impression, but once they feel comfortable with the girl, will start letting her pay for things because they start to go broke.
I'm the complete opposite. I don't want to pay for a stranger's expensive meal, especially when there is a chance that it won't work out and I'll have wasted my money on her. Once we are in a stable relationship, and I start to fall in love, that's when I start to pay for her meals, buy her gifts, etc. - because I wanna do something nice for someone I actually know and love.0
Most Helpful Girl
Some guys would never let a woman pay lol, like they'll literally put her money back and stuff. I think it depends on the guy. Some it's because they like her and want to treat her etc... Some because it he feels more like the man if he does because some people are really kinda into gender rolls but not always in a bad sexist way. Some do it because they want to impress. Don't know why else.0