I am 18, almost 19, and I never even had a kiss in my life. So needless to say Im also a virgin. The thing is, girls aren't interested in me. At all. No girl ever liked me, and there isn't a girl on this planet who would be with me. They were always interested in literally every other guy except me. And I love girls. I have a strong desire for a girl, for making out, for sex. But obviously I will never find out what those things feel like. I just dont know what the fuck to do anymore? Its very frustrating and its ruining my whole life. Also, very important, I DON'T want bullshit like "it will happen to you too" and such comments.
Most Helpful Girl
Take control of your own life/destiny, whatever you wanna call it. Consider why they aren't interested perhaps? Now I'm not saying go & change into someone you don't want to be, but a little change is good as long as it's for the better. Take care of yourself physically & emotionally. Eat right, exercise, be happy, get the heck out to where you can meet women. Go hiking, volunteer, walk your dog in your neighborhood, go to a coffee shop (stay off your electronic devices there), try something new, & try to get comfortable in your own skin. Try to be optimistic about your life because no women is looking for someone that's going to bring them down. Smile & learn what makes you happy & hopefully you will find the women to share your happiness with. I wish you the best of luck.0
Most Helpful Guy
A key adjustment I think you need to make is to embrace the idea that attraction is largely instinctual. It's also not rational (if it was, everyone would be hooking up with their ideal long-term partner and we wouldn't find all these people complaining that their boyfriend/girlfriend sucks).
It's also likely something evolved over millions of years of human existence. That doesn't necessarily mean awesome qualities today like being a nerd with a well-paying job is suddenly going to make you a hit among ladies, even if such a nerd could make a great husband.
Try to imagine a small human tribe. They're social creatures who need to cooperate to survive against the harsh conditions. What type of man would be most respected among the people in that group, most looked up to, most admired, envied, well-liked, followed, possibly even feared at times? Try your best to become that man, and you can seriously turn things around.
It's also worth noting that your odds of success rests with numbers. If you lack some of the qualities above, you may need to try your luck with many more women. So it helps to find the right kind of social settings to expose yourself to many, and also ask girls out on dates sooner. Laugh off the rejection if it happens and you have little to lose.0
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