Dating can be quite troublesome - even more so when you have a mental disorder or are dating someone with a mental disorder. There are many people that claim to have mental disorders but have yet to be diagnosed with one - this can lead to further misconceptions regarding mental disorders. The reality is that some types of mental disorders can vary in severity of manifestation but almost always have unavoidable negative symptoms which can cause sudden changes in personality or mood. TL;DR Mental disorders and dating: Deal-breaker or nah.
Yes - If the mental disorder isn't too severe.
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No - I don't think I would be able to handle it.
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Maybe - Depends on the type of disorder and the person.
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Yes - Regardless of the severity and manifestation of the disorder.
I selected "Yes - Regardless of the severity and manifestation of the disorder." I have anxiety (generalized and social anxiety), my mom has PTSD, my brother is bipolar, and my sister has borderline personality disorder. To choose to cut someone out of my life because of a disorder would by hypocritical, to put it mildly. As long as they're seeking treatment, I don't see it as a problem.
I have ADHD. It's not a case that handicaps me as much as some other people but I still have some disadvantages. I don't have the attention deficit part but have a bunch of other symptoms:
Terrible self discipline and self motivation (always procrastinating), basically no organisation always a mess in my room and for instance notes for school or paperwork for other things is always disorganised and can be lost. I lose a lot of important things (it used to be terrible but I've gotten better it still happens from time to time though). Planning is bad and I don't really set goals and then achieve them I just kinda drift through life and only do something when I have to. I have hyperactivity but it's not that strong anymore it was stronger as a kid. Other symptoms I had were impulsivity ( lack of self control) just blurting things out without thinking sometimes, beeing extra reckless (resulted in a lot of injuries). Terrible handwriting and drawing (bad micro motor skills)
My mom helped me out a lot as a kid and I made it through the highest level of highschool in Switzerland that allows you to go to any university in the country. I compensated for my weaknesses with participation in class and learning quickly, I didn't really have to study much. The problem was, there was no more structure like in high school. All my weaknesses were laid bare and I just crashed and burned. I wasted a lot of time because I was lost, I didn't know wha to do next.
I only found out about the ADHD some months ago. I have been to appointments with a doctor but I still have to wait a bit until I get to see a different doctor and then they'll do tests and shit. Anyway I'm trying to get my life back on track but now that I'm trying, I feel how screwed up I actually am. Before when I was just doing whatever I wanted I didn't notice it, but now that I have a bunch of responsibilities and obligations it's easy to see I'm not like other adults.
I'm 26 but in certain areas I'm not a grown up. I don't think it would be a great idea for me to date a girl who has a disorder herself that would probably end in disaster. I'm not even fully capable of dealing with my own problems so adding someone elses on top would be bad. I think I need a girl that's organised and responsible :P. That doesn't mean I should stop getting my shit together becoming more independant and organised myself but it would still be better.
I know this was a great advertisement for myself ;P
NEVER! Tried it twice and wasted 6 years of my life. As people age their mental condition will likely get worse. I hope any of you that said "yes" never try it. Next to dating/marry a schizophrenic id' say Bi-polar is the absolute worst condition to deal with.
Your happiness is completely based on her ability to stick any treatment her Dr prescribes. Probably the only time in my life i've wanted to cry from dealing with another's illness.
I already struggle with depression and anxiety, have several friends with it worse than I, more friends with other disorders such as schizophrenia and personality disorders, and family with other disorders.
As long as it isn't too severe, I'd give it a go. It's dating for a reason and will give us both time to see if it can work out.
Everyone who said, "yes" . . . you have no idea how impossible it is to marry a deep-end schizophrenic. Some disorders are manageable, but others are nearly impossible. . . and those that are impossible only get worse with time.
It really depends on the disorder entirely! I've seen and been with someone who had a minor disorder and I've seen and heard stories of others which their disorder took over their lives and made everyone around them miserable so it depends.
i voted c, though what i really mean is "yes, as long as the person is actively seeking treatment".
i have anxiety and ocd, among other issues, but am actively managing them with medication and therapy. my boyfriend/future husband has been my #1 supporter from day one and, though he doesn't always understand it, he makes the effort to (and loves me nonetheless).
i did once date someone who was diagnosed as clinically depressed (though i suspect he may have had bpd or bipolar disorder), but he refused all treatment and opted to drag me down with him instead. between trying to shoulder the burden of both of our issues, the relationship drained me to the point that i could no longer function, and i was relieved when it ended.
It's very sad the number of people who said no. The fact is that 1 in 5 people have some form of mental disorder. You can't paint everyone with a mental disorder with the same brush, because there are so many varying degrees of it. Everyone has their crosses to bare in life. I'm just happy that I found someone understands and supports me, even though I have an anxiety disorder.
Depression: tried it, was terrible. I made the mistake of thinking I could fix him. Autism: I've slightly liked a slightly autistic guy once. We're close friends now though, but I know him and some others well enough to know I could easily deal with them. Borderline: seen it cause absolute disasters. Eating disorder: think I could do that. Others: no experience, dunno.
I have been with a couple of guys who had bi polar or depression and I will say, absolutely never again. They will use it as an excuse to treat you badly and get away with poor behavior. Last man I was with was an unmedicated bi polar and I always got to feel the wraith and chaos from him. Never again.