This is something that I tell ALL my female friends whenever they are going through it. I have also done this myself. As Guys we almost ALWAYS come back. why? A few simple
Reasons
1. It takes longer for realization of certain things to hit us - we were an asshole for no reason to a nice girl for example and sometimes we are genuinely sorry.
2. Easy sex- if you slept with a guy in question at any point if they come back around (reason 1 is applicable as in its used as an excuse) it's see if you'd be open to sleeping with them
Again. And since it's already happened we'd see it as much less challenging.
3. Lack of options - the precursor to reason 1-2. While dealing with you a "better" option could've come along so they ditch you for that but if it doesn't work out they come back. Or they're going through a dry spell.
This guy honestly sounds like a fuck boy. Be wary
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You shouldn't reply with anything. Move on. If you reply and forgive him, you'll only show that you're ok with him walking all over you and ignoring you for weeks/months on end, and that he gets the chance to come back to you whenever he feels like it. It was getting serious so he probably couldn't handle it, thus decided to ghost on you. It's a clear sign that he doesn't do commitment and that he's not worth your time if you want something serious.
When he was ghosting you it is likely that he was:
1. dating other girls.
2. Getting in a short lived relationship with another girl.
3. Wasn't ready for something serious.
The reason for him contacting you:
1. Other dating options failed.
2. He knew what he missed out on.
3. He wants to be flirting with someone.
It is all up to you whether you want to hook up with him again. But be careful!
I'd ignore him and keep your dignity.
He ignored you because someone else most likely had his interest and now he's bored and lonely and falling back on you!
Ghosting is an immature behavior and it shows lack of respect and communication skills. You deserve better!! And by giving this guy another chance you are telling him it's OK for him to treat you the way he did, because he will then know you'll come around again.
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I agree that it sounds like a booty call, sorry.
If he contacts you again, (before 9pm) maybe you could answer and ask him what was going on. Keep it casual though, maybe something like "I'm just curious, why did you ignore me for 3 weeks?"
After that it depends whether you think he is genuine or not.You need to find out why he did that. He could be toying with you.
Say "what's up" just be a little less enthusiastic.
Do not Reply to him if he was ghosting you it sounds like he never wanted to be a part of your life just saying
Ask him, where you been? Or why did you ignore me?
If you like him, ask him for an explanation.
I wouldn't reply
Move on to a new guy
You ignore the prick
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