So I had been seeing this guy for 3 months and it was getting serious, he was even looking at places for us to go on holiday together in summer, until one day he just disappears completely and doesn't reply to my messages. It's now 3 weeks later and last night he messaged me twice, first saying "hey :)" another saying "sorry for ignoring you that was a dick move". Obviously I still like him and he was amazing to me up until when he ignored me so I don't know what to do, what should I reply? (I'm 17 he's 19)
Most Helpful Guy
This is something that I tell ALL my female friends whenever they are going through it. I have also done this myself. As Guys we almost ALWAYS come back. why? A few simple
1. It takes longer for realization of certain things to hit us - we were an asshole for no reason to a nice girl for example and sometimes we are genuinely sorry.
2. Easy sex- if you slept with a guy in question at any point if they come back around (reason 1 is applicable as in its used as an excuse) it's see if you'd be open to sleeping with them
Again. And since it's already happened we'd see it as much less challenging.
3. Lack of options - the precursor to reason 1-2. While dealing with you a "better" option could've come along so they ditch you for that but if it doesn't work out they come back. Or they're going through a dry spell.
This guy honestly sounds like a fuck boy. Be wary2
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Most Helpful Girl
You shouldn't reply with anything. Move on. If you reply and forgive him, you'll only show that you're ok with him walking all over you and ignoring you for weeks/months on end, and that he gets the chance to come back to you whenever he feels like it. It was getting serious so he probably couldn't handle it, thus decided to ghost on you. It's a clear sign that he doesn't do commitment and that he's not worth your time if you want something serious.2