Most Helpful Guy
I think people who fear intimacy, whether it be because of trust issues or other wise, will push people away because they don't want to get hurt.. they guy or girl might be great for them but they are afraid of falling for someone and putting their heart out there and potentially having it hurt... I guess maybe for some it might just be easier to go with the I know they aren't good for me so I won't get to attached so if things end out going sour, I won't lose as much or be hurt as much.2
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Most Helpful Girl
Yeah its way of feeling closeness or not feeling alone without risking getting in too deep.
A person can be with people who are bad for them bc they hope or expect to lose them, and it doesn't matter if they do lose them. bc the were bad anyway. and being with people they dont really want will keep them from being with someone they want and getting attached. they could also just be alone but even people who fear attachment can still get lonely. so there are ways they trick themselves into getting closeness yet not, at the same time.
its like some people who have food issues... some just dont eat, some people eat very little, too little. some people eat and throw up. some people only keep food they hate around so they won't eat much of it...
all of this avoids any real commitment to food. which they need and n some level desire but want to reject. or are paranoid of or makes them feel sick etc.