Two weeks ago I started seeing this girl off Happn and she's very cute and we have a bit in common but I feel that she is smothering me and very intrusive.
I say this because she has been blowing up my phone literally every day since we first met.
When we try to schedule dates, she'll ALWAYS ask if I still want to see her despite asking her for a date or me agreeing to meet up.
If im not available to hang out a certain day, but suggest another day or say I can't hang out today but I'm still down for this day, she'll throw a fit, ask if I still wanna see her or accuse me of seeing other people.
She also sends nudes through snapchat to get my attention and the funny thing is when we made out on the first date, she stopped and asked me if I'm not just looking for a hookup. Even after we left on our last date, she texted me saying she misses me and wished I could cuddle at her place and then texted me to hang out the day after when she said she was going out of town that weekend.
Im supposed to meet her tonight, but I'm kinda hesitant. I'm open to seeing her more but if she keeps acting like this, I'm out. How do I tell her to slow it down without insulting her or coming off as stand offish?
I've never even been in a serious relationship and while I am looking for one eventually, I am in no means wanting to rush into one and this is turning me off. I used to think I was the needy one back in the day but I do have a life outside of dating.
But soon as the date ended, she sends a text 5 mins later saying if you're not into me, let me know at least. I felt cornered.
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I believe you already know what to do. You need to just let her know that honestly even if it does hurt her. This is a learning lesson for her, and you shouldn't have to put yourself down because your concerned about how she feels. I may seem polite of you to think that, but you can already see that this relationship isn't going anywhere. She is going to keep acting like this because she is needy and insecure. Nobody should be blowing up your phone when you just want privacy. If she is sending you nudes and everything, that is a clear sign to bail out A. S. A. P. She believes sex is what's going to keep you. Don't bother, just run. Those are the signs of girls you need to avoid. They bring drama, trouble, stress and a whole lot of baggage. She has no solid foundation of what a real relationship is like.5
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