Two weeks ago I started seeing this girl off Happn and she's very cute and we have a bit in common but I feel that she is smothering me and very intrusive.
I say this because she has been blowing up my phone literally every day since we first met.
When we try to schedule dates, she'll ALWAYS ask if I still want to see her despite asking her for a date or me agreeing to meet up.
If im not available to hang out a certain day, but suggest another day or say I can't hang out today but I'm still down for this day, she'll throw a fit, ask if I still wanna see her or accuse me of seeing other people.
She also sends nudes through snapchat to get my attention and the funny thing is when we made out on the first date, she stopped and asked me if I'm not just looking for a hookup. Even after we left on our last date, she texted me saying she misses me and wished I could cuddle at her place and then texted me to hang out the day after when she said she was going out of town that weekend.
Im supposed to meet her tonight, but I'm kinda hesitant. I'm open to seeing her more but if she keeps acting like this, I'm out. How do I tell her to slow it down without insulting her or coming off as stand offish?
I've never even been in a serious relationship and while I am looking for one eventually, I am in no means wanting to rush into one and this is turning me off. I used to think I was the needy one back in the day but I do have a life outside of dating.
3mo Had my 3rd date with her last night and the weird thing is she doesn't act this way in person but only through text. The date itself went fine and I couldn't find a time to address her acting this way.
But soon as the date ended, she sends a text 5 mins later saying if you're not into me, let me know at least. I felt cornered.
I believe you already know what to do. You need to just let her know that honestly even if it does hurt her. This is a learning lesson for her, and you shouldn't have to put yourself down because your concerned about how she feels. I may seem polite of you to think that, but you can already see that this relationship isn't going anywhere. She is going to keep acting like this because she is needy and insecure. Nobody should be blowing up your phone when you just want privacy. If she is sending you nudes and everything, that is a clear sign to bail out A. S. A. P. She believes sex is what's going to keep you. Don't bother, just run. Those are the signs of girls you need to avoid. They bring drama, trouble, stress and a whole lot of baggage. She has no solid foundation of what a real relationship is like.
im not sure what to say bc if she's comfortable like this then she is and she should not change. its not for you thats clear, but i think that means you guys are not compatible. why make her feel bad about who she is just bc you dont like t. the fact she likes it means some people do. so id just let her go on her way. its not your job to 'correct' her behavior or tell her how to t., thats how id handle it anyhow. as far as im concerned the guys who e is. i like it or i dont. unless is bc he's disrespecting me. then id tell him. but she's not being disrespectful. he's just very eager. you find it annoying but she's not doing anything wrong. you can say what yo need but don't confuse that with how she should act.
that might be a way to go. tell her whats important to you. then let her decide if that conflicts with whats important to her:)
please do NOT say she's doing x y z. thats just combative and attacking and cowardly.. when really you should talk about YOU.
Whoa!!! She is coming off very insecure needy and desperate!! I think the real question is, do you wanna be with someone like this?
If so, then I'd be REAL honest and give her a reality check! She'll appreciate your honesty over just vanishing (Which a lot of men would do if they were in this situation lol) seriously in just 2 weeks of dating, this is extremely crazy behavior. IMHO you are better of running away NOW!!
She seems a lot pushy and i think that she might think that she could keep you by sending you nudes and etc. This might hurt her or both of you, but better tell her how you feel rather than going along with it. The truth is always better even if it hurts.
Ok. So... Put this girl on the back burner and see other people. You've already been clear when you're free and when you're not. It's a respect issue at this point. You have to be firm and direct, without thinking about being polite. You don't have to be a dick, but polite is exactly what you've been doing and she's not receiving. Personally, to me her personality sounds like a girl that is either really damaged from an ex and you're in for a whirlwind that you don't want to take part in. Or she's talking to other guys (high possibility btw) and this is her trying to emotionally manipulate you as a way to pressure you to be that good guy that will never leave her and promise to never hurts her no matter what. Getting you to bend over backwards to do so.