I've gone out with this girl a couple of times along with some friends of her. I recently asked her if she'd be willing to hang out for one study break this past weekend, since we're both in college. She declined due to an alleged "friend's birthday party" that she needed to attend to. Today I came across her, right after coming out of the gym as she was on her way to class we made some small talk and there was definitely eye contact! Later I texted if she wanted to go for dinner this weekend ( I gave her an option of two days)...she took a while to reply "saying that she was going to Houston to see someone"...and thanked me for inviting her though...(I responded: my pleasure!) So what do you think should I quit or try a bit more later on...
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Definitely lost a couple of points when you said, "my pleasure." It's almost like you thanked her for declining your offer. I'm going to say flat out that she's not interested, why? Because you asked her out, you didn't "INVITE" her. -...- It's hard to tell what's happening via., text, so many people rather you ask them in person, shows a little more confidence as well. But you have to check your own flow of text messages, the longer it takes her to reply the more she's either considering it or busy responding to other messages to get to yours.
But put yourself in her shoes if you really want a answer, she does not like you, but does not have the confidence to say she doesn't like you. So she lies, so far she's probably lied twice. Something you would do if you didn't like someone. Second, she had to think about whether or not she wanted to hang out with you, and the best excuse available to get out of it. That would explain the pause. But you still can't be sure, from a text message.
I say you drop back down to first gear, and start looking else where. Don't ask her out a third time, because now your coming off as really desperate.1