I think you gotta let the 'honeymoon phase' part of a relationship pass first because everything the do during that will seem perfect. If you get bored and start looking elsewhere then it was lust not love. If you get more comfortable then it's probably time to say the words.
Never have. I'm not sure what "falling in love" even means. Other people talk about it like it's the greatest thing you can experience, and I'm pretty sure I've never experienced anything like that. Sometimes I suspect I was born without the "love" feature, whatever that may be.
I don't believe in falling in love. I believe in love people. In order for you to truly love a person, love needs to be in you and you have to know what real love is. Many fall in love only to fall out of it. I take relationships seriously. I don't care how attractive a person may seem to me. If I don't like certain things about them or I can never see myself marrying to and submitting to as a wife, I won't bother. I won't play head games, or jump into something I will regret later in life doing. I believe that everybody should have a solid foundation and have the basic understanding of what love really is. Otherwise they risk failing in their relationships, because of something so simple to do and change about themselves. If your not willing to be unselfish and sacrifice your wants for what is needed and devote yourself to improving your relationship and communication, you will fail. It never wise to 'feel' that your in love, and emotionally invest in a person right away or you'll end up with disappointment.
If somebody told me that, I would question them about what they believe love is, and what about me that makes the person say that. Because I believe in the actions of a person, not the words. Words are words until it's meaningless. You'll know if the person loves you or not if they are not serious about pursing a more deeper and fulfilling relationship to the point it leads to marriage. If their not willing to change for the better and work together with you or respect your boundaries and decisions, let alone force you to do something you don't want to do. Then they do not love you. That's what falling in love does. Trick you into thinking you with the right kind of person, and then when things get extremely difficult instead of fixing it, they cheat or leave. Use wisdom and be rational with your decisions, no using your feelings. Feelings will get you into trouble and you want to know how is it they deceived you when you deceived yourself, or allowed yourself to be vulnerable in the wrong way, instead of guarding your heart and mind from deception. That's my advice.
Depends on the relationship. The first time I thought I was in love I felt that way after like 2 weeks. It was super passionate and mutual and I thought that's what love was. In hindsight wrong were both just infatuated with each other.
Current relationship I knew from the beginning this was different but I wouldn't say I was in love with him til about 3-4 months in. Once I realize did loved him it didn't take long to realize he's my "one".
Other people I've dated for 3 or 4 months and never fell in love.
In my opinion , love grows deeper and deeper everyday depending on the love that is shared between the two people. So there i don't believe it's an instant but also takes time once that individual gets to know that person day by day and step by step.