If you're not sexually attracted to your boyfriend, and you DON'T want to have sex with your boyfriend (at least one day) or have regular physical contact with him, your relationship will crash and burn horribly. Men need physical contact; they need sex and physically intimacy. If we don't get regular sex in a relationship, the relationship fails, and IT WILL break off or he'll get his needs serviced elsewhere.
So, you've either got become sexually attracted to him, or you've got to break it off. Because, if you don't give him regular sex at least once you're married, the relationship is completely doomed, anyways.
I was in your shoes when I was a teenager and I dated this guy because I loved his personality and I was under the stupid false impression that he would "grow on me" and that I would eventually become attracted to him. Do NOT fall into this trap. It was a very stupid mistake and I learned the hard way that you can't force yourself to be attracted to someone and that if there's something missing, you can't really do anything to fill the void. It ended up being a great lesson for me and we both ended up having completely different visions of what we wanted out of life anyway, so we split on good terms. I will never date someone I am not attracted to again. Call me superficial, but I think everyone has to be attracted to some degree in order to have a healthy relationship. Trust me, you are not doing him or yourself any favors. You'll end up miserable because there is something missing. He also deserves someone who is attracted to him and would want to someday be intimate with him. If you can't imagine yourself being intimate with him, he is not your boyfriend, but your friend, as others have said, and your relationship is destined for doom.
No just leave him.. doing a disservice to him because you will be mistreating him. Will kill his confidence. He deserves to be with someone who is attracted to him. Just find a dude you can't keep your hands off of and it should be much better for you
If he is wanting a physical intimate relationship and you don't want the same then it's a problem. If you both don't have physical attraction to each other then it's ok and you have a possible none sexual relationship.
But when the attraction is out of balance it is (as others have said) "leading someone on" and you should walk away and be happy to admit it's simply friends
Is it fuck lol. Are you having a laugh? How would you feel if you found out he didn't like you physically but he was staying with you as a charity case? Jesus. Some folk these days. When in doubt use your brain and switch the tables its thats simple
Sounds like you are actually asexual , which is fairly common in women , and / or you see him as purely a friend. Once a woman sees a man in that light , she will NEVER be sexually attracted to him , hence all these friggin' " Friend Zone " posts !! Do both of you a favour & break it off , set him free. Stay single yourself
It depends. Are you a sexual person? Most girls your age are extremely sexual. If you aren't attracted to him it's probably best to break up because you'll be looking elsewhere and you'll end up hurting him. When you get older and mature your standards will probably drop, and you'll be okay with dating a guy that's not that physical appealing, but very intellectual.
Erm, not really no. There needs to be some sexual attraction for a relationship, otherwise its just a friendship. Or at the very least heading towards a sexless relationship, and I don't think that would work.
First you have the wrong idea of what intimacy is. Intimacy is you spending time together, talking and connecting without being sexual. It is fine that your not attracted to him right away, but you need to figure out why are you dating him in the first place? Because if the kind of attraction your talking about is sexual and physical attraction, then he is not the problem, it is you. Because you can't look past the superficial. If you can't respect that or truly love him for him, then your in the wrong relationship, and it is not his fault. You either grow or learn to love him, or don't at all. It Love is a choice, not a feeling. Which one will you choose? And, no I am not joking about this, I am being very serious. If you can't get your act in order and find out what you really want in this relationship, your going to hurt him, and then he will eventually break up with you. Figure it out.
If you Feel it is a Bad deal with 'But I'm scared it will case intimacy issues because I don't want him like that,' then you need to sit him down, @Spidersandsnakes, and Lay it on the Level Line with him, that you Care about him but you are just want to go Slow with the Flow. Continue to Nurse and Nurture Something Special here, dear, and perhaps you may change your Mind in Time. However, later, if you don't 'Feel' anything at all for him in going Further, it's probably Best from the Rest to Release him and Allow him to be Free to Find someone who may Want what he Wants, he may Not be your Type... Totally. Good luck. xx
I think it's unhealthy on the long run. My best-friend broke up with her ex because of this reason, she liked him as a person but she didn't feel physically attracted to him. Even if he's not a 10, if you don't love him enough for him to become a 10 in your eyes, you should probably end it.
Try to imagine yourself in his place. How would you feel about him not actually finding you physically attractive? I don't know I just personally wouldn't date anyone I'm not attracted to & I'd feel kinda shitty and betrayed if I found out my partner was dating me despite finding me unattractive but maybe that's just me.
No that's not OK. Your partner deserves someone who is into them physically and who will be intimate with them. Let me ask you this. How will you feel if your boyfriend had no physical attraction for you and didn't want to be intimate with you?
Hmmm, if you are not turned on by him (and have been turned on by others you find attractive) Yea, that's an issue... it sucks. But it's really not fair to him if you will never be enthusiastic about sex. And you probably aren't being fair to him by leading him on in thinking that everything is ok.
The way I see it is if you dont have any physical attraction to him and you dont want him like that, he's just a friend. I wouldn't call someone my boyfriend if I wasn't attracted to them on all levels. It just doesn't work for me, so yea, to me thats a problem. However, if it works for you, more power to you. I just hope your boyfriend understands.
Just cover his face during sex and pretend it's Johnny Depp. Hahaha, kidding. You should let this guy off the hook so he can find someone who does find him attractive. The whole point of being in a relationship with someone is because you want to be intimate with them.
Its weird girl, i was attracted to this guy romantically/emotionally, but not sexually. Every time we hooked up, he couldnt get wet (i couldnt get wet) but he was hard as rock from me just brushing his arm!
I would say that that is an issue. When I am attracted to a guy I have the dirtiest thoughts. I even think about him while I masturbate. When I am around him I have butterflies and wish I could touch him. That is not how you feel at all.