He's great, I don't care that I don't find him attractive because we have a real connection but I'm scared it will case intimacy issues because I don't want him like that
Most Helpful Guy
Break it off now.
If you're not sexually attracted to your boyfriend, and you DON'T want to have sex with your boyfriend (at least one day) or have regular physical contact with him, your relationship will crash and burn horribly. Men need physical contact; they need sex and physically intimacy. If we don't get regular sex in a relationship, the relationship fails, and IT WILL break off or he'll get his needs serviced elsewhere.
So, you've either got become sexually attracted to him, or you've got to break it off. Because, if you don't give him regular sex at least once you're married, the relationship is completely doomed, anyways.6
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Most Helpful Girl
I was in your shoes when I was a teenager and I dated this guy because I loved his personality and I was under the stupid false impression that he would "grow on me" and that I would eventually become attracted to him. Do NOT fall into this trap. It was a very stupid mistake and I learned the hard way that you can't force yourself to be attracted to someone and that if there's something missing, you can't really do anything to fill the void. It ended up being a great lesson for me and we both ended up having completely different visions of what we wanted out of life anyway, so we split on good terms.
I will never date someone I am not attracted to again. Call me superficial, but I think everyone has to be attracted to some degree in order to have a healthy relationship.
Trust me, you are not doing him or yourself any favors. You'll end up miserable because there is something missing. He also deserves someone who is attracted to him and would want to someday be intimate with him. If you can't imagine yourself being intimate with him, he is not your boyfriend, but your friend, as others have said, and your relationship is destined for doom.1