Hi, i am very depressed... i am 24 and i never experienced teenage love... i was depressed during that period and i wore a brace from 12 to 16,5 and then from 17-20 i became depressed and isolated myself... i missed out on a lot and because of that i never had a serious relationship and now i am sick to my stomach... no one helped me out and my mom just kept saying go to school... i am very depressed be ause. of this i feel like i missed out on life... what am i going to tell my kids when i grow up... and why did i let my life pass me by? for years i have been sick because of this... i still live at home by the way...
2 answers · Psychology
Most Helpful Guy
Modelina, your situation may be more common than you think.
In more than a couple of ways, I lived through a similar situation from the male side of the fence.
What I recognise in your post is that you almost certainly have a major depressive disorder that requires medical intervention. I can say that because I have such a condition, but it was not diagnosed until I was 41 years old. Until then, I thought that it was normal to spend time every day contemplating suicide.
In the most gentle and caring way possible, I would urge you to have a conversation with your GP and ask for a referral to a psychiatrist.
That does not mean that you are insane. It means that you may have a problem for which a psychiatrist is the most appropriate medical professional. They are trained to diagnose and treat that sort of condition.
Please, Modelina, seek that professional help.
You do not have to live with the degree of pain and sadness that you are experiencing now.5
Most Helpful Girl
I too have depression. I'm 19, never had a boyfriend, have very few friends and missed out on a lot of things. I've had depression since I was around 8 years old.
I'm in a bad place right now but I guess I can give you advice on what has helped me to keep going.
I have never seen a doctor (I don't know if this has been a good thing or a bad one). I've found out excercising makes me feel better (you release Endorphins that help you feel better). It also helps me with my insecurities. I look better when I'm fit and healthy, so also have a healty diet.
Try to reach out, it's really hard, I know, but it pays off. I've noticed that if you act like you're happy long enough, sometimes you start feeling it.
I'm not saying you need to shut down what you feel, that's a terrible mistake I made when I was younger and it led me to a horrible period in my depression.
People are attracted (not just sexually, but also to be friends with) people who are happy. So it can help you make friends.
Find someone you can talk to, either a doctor or a friend. It's important to talk about what you feel, or you can get overwhelmed.
ALWAYS try to do something new or that makes you happy, every day. No matter how small it is. Listen to music that you like. Go for an ice cream or for a walk. Enter a new interesting store, joing a gym...
And you can tell your kids how there's people out there who have this ILLNESS, and it's really hard but it makes you strong and compassionate and teaches you to enjoy and apreciate the little things in life.
And about finding someone to date... I don't really have an awnser haha. Guess we'll just have to wait and see what life has in store for us ;)0