I have a huge crush on my coworker, and I'm about 75% sure that he likes me back. I've been flirting and dropping hints and it looks like he might ask me out then he either backs out or we get busy. My sisters and friends think I should just go for it, but I don't want things at work to get awkward if I'm wrong. We've taken break together a couple of times and spend the whole meal talking. He always uses my line to check out even of I'm busy. He always talks to me when no customers are around, asks me about plans or personal questions and high fives me. He leans over the counter and into my space to talk to me, we always say goodbye when we leave. He even compliments my work though we don't do much. We tease, prank and challenge each other. He even once trued to interlock our fingers during a high five and deliberately spent a break outside with me while I waited for my ride. I've been taken these as signs of interest and even came up with a plan to ask him out, but don't wanna ruin our friendship or our working one if I'm wrong. Should I just ask anyway or wait and see if he doe
Should I ask out my coworker?
What Guys Said 16
As long as your company doesn't have a policy against coworkers engaging in intimate relations, I would say go for it!
I love that you said, as a WOMAN, that you think you should take the initiative, being older!! It isn't the being older part, but just being a woman, and being confident, and assertive enough!! If I was that guy, and you asked me out, I would, just because you asked me out!! That is so amazing!!
Women should, more often!!! Rather than wait, just ask him out!! A lot of guys will be totally flattered and LOVE IT!!2
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You should just try! Go for it. I'm in the same situation. She's new at work and right away I started talking to her, we see each other in the hall and she happily sees my way and says 'Hi' and talk when I go to her line and chat about what's happening at the moment. We just share small moments like that throughout, but never seems to get out the "hi and bye" zone. I never seen signs of interest that I know of other than what I wrote. I want to take it there but it seems that I can't and she's kinda quite too. Its tough.1
So let me get this straight... you're afraid that you're gonna make things awkward so you don't make a move but you expect him to overpower those same fears and just do it? Just ask him out you're an adult, if you want it try to get it and if there is fallout from that then deal with it.1
No, not if you like your work.1
Mmmm... I'm not sure you should do it at work. You should do it on your own time. Also, I'd like to add that dating a coworker can make life at work stressful. So, if you decide to date a coworker, be aware that life could get crazy.0
It is usually a bad idea to be involved with a coworker.0
I would say does you work have a policy on dating co-workers? Some do some don't. If not, and you are comfortable with the additional stress that this may cause on your work/life balance then go for it.0
"friends think I should just go for it, but I don't want things at work to get awkward if I'm wrong."
Welcome to the guy's world.1
You should just ask him out.0
I've had crushes on co-workers, but I will never, ever, EVER "fish off the company pier," so to speak. Too much potential for very unpleasant drama.0
dont do it0
Don't shit where you eat.
Dating a co-worker is a BAD idea, especially when it goes badly and you still have to see each other.
I asked out my bosses daughter once on bring your daughter to work day. It was awkward at first when he found out because she was technically underage and he threatened to both have me fired and arrested if I didn't stop seeing her but after he found out she was pregnant he changed his tune being a devout Christian he insisted we get married, paid for the wedding and even set us up in our own house not to mention a promotion and pay rise. So you see these things can work out.0
NO.. never ever get involved with or attempt to get involved with a co worker! Talk starts.. and if everything goes bad then talk will get worse.. nothing ever comes good of that0
Yeah. It's always worth a try. Do since we guys actually likes to be asked once in a while0
What Girls Said 4
First you need to think about work policy if it will effect your job. Many companies won't allow romantic relationships inside the work place between co-workers. If they don't have that, then it's entirely up to you. But I think you should slow down a bit and see where it goes first as friends before you make a move to ask.0
Work + fun = DISASTER... EVERY SINGLE TIME!!!1
Personally, I'd wait to see if he does, but if not- yolo! Maybe ask him to go somewhere with you first to test the waters in a non working environment. Hint at somewhere you want to go.0
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