I have only been dating my boyfriend for 4 months, before we officially for together he told me he was engaged before me for 6 years. He claimed he didn't have feelings for her anymore and I believed him. I found out today that he had gotten drunk one night and began to text her and sending sexts to her. He claims it was a mistake and he doesn't love her and that he texted her because we had a huge fight and he got "scared" but he continued to talk to her afterwards. He says he is sorry and that he loves me but I'm not sure I believe him. I'm not sure I want to fogive him.. Any advise?
Most Helpful Guy
A couple of preliminary questions:
1. Have you met this lady? Do you know anything about her?
2. Were they actual "sexts", or more just a "Hi, how are you doing?" kind of message. The desire to remain on friendly terms with exes is understandable, as is the desire for closure, or just to open the proverbial "Where are they now?" file. Sexts, on the other hand...
Most Helpful Girl
That would be a deal- breaker for me. It seems deep down he's still clinging too and pining after his ex
If a person's words don't harmonise with their actions then their words are meaningless People's actions tell you all to know. Being drunk isn't an excuse, because his actions when he was drunk shows who he truly thinks about.
If you both have problems within the relationship it's you he should be contacting to work things out not his ex.0