I am really shy and never have had a girlfriend...
So I have been talking to this ugly girl, I really am not attracted to her...
But should I date to just get practice? or No?
I would never want to hurt someone, I have been hurt before and wouldn't want anyone to go through the pain... I guess I didn't think it might hurt this other girl.
I just started talking to girl, I think she's into me... but that made me ask this question... because I am not into her...
So I will not date her just for practice and won't lead her on or anything... :)
Most Helpful Girl
No. Would you like it if a girl dated you just for "practice" and dumped you when she was done? Probably not. Don't be an ass.11
Most Helpful Guy
Don't do it. You will lead her on, for your own reasons, and hurt her, in the end. It isn't right!! A Good MAN, would never do that!
So what SHOULD YOU DO? Like I would leave you hanging? :)
I was REALLY SHY, and A TOTAL NERD!!! The best thing I ever did was accidental, at a job!! I was working as a janitor, when I went to college, and I had to clean offices and bathrooms, and all kinds of sht jobs, like you do, when young, and EARNING your way up to better things, right?
I had to interrupt people, in their offices, when working late, to dump their trash, because if I missed one, my supervisor would btch me out, the next day.
Some were high-level execs, and some secretaries, but I was a little freaked out, interrupting, just to dump their trash.
But some said hello, and talked to me! (I was the only 'white' guy on the totally hispanic janitorial staff!! They told me some things they wanted, and some things that weren't getting done right, and I did them, and told my boss)
After a few weeks, they were sending compliments, rather than complaints, about the things that I was taking care of, just talking with them!
They were 'executive' types, and I was some peon, but I talked to them, and learned how to be confident, with that, not feeling shy, or being a 'minion' but greeting them, by name, later, and asking about their kids, and 'networking'!!! One of them helped me get a better job, a few years later, being the brother of the guy that would be my boss!
Just talk to women, anywhere you can!! They don't bite!! Talk to the checker, at the grocery, or Walmart!! Make her laugh!! (sometimes they have some discount coupons that you didn't know about!!)
Just get comfortable talking with the ones you don't know!! If you totally bomb, and flub it, and look like a fool, you probably won't ever see her again!! Move on, regroup, try again!!
Talking with checkers, and making them laugh, is TOTALLY different than dating someone that you aren't interested in!! The checkers have no investment, and won't be hurt, the 'ugly' girl will really be hurt!!
How would you feel if you were 'trial dating' her, and then dumped her, for another, feeling ready for some girl you liked, and then found out the 'ugly' girl killed herself because you dumped her?5