I've pondered this question for quite a long time, spawned from observations. I'm curious... Are you okay with your man acting jealous, going through your phone, controlling where you go, who you can talk to etc... Also turn the tables around, and what do you think is appropriate for a woman towards a man.. Do you take the same stance on both sides? Do you have a reason that it should be one way for you and another for your partner? What is the reason behind your preference... if you prefer a jealous man why? If you prefer a man who's not like that why?
3mo So far almost everyone is against it. I'm glad it came out that way. I'm a little surprised that it's also going the same way for yourselves, you're not okay with being jealous. I personally like to let my partner still have their life, and just add me into it. I don't check phones or give permission, you're a grown woman, do what you do, I trust you. However it doesn't bother me if she doesn't feel the same towards me. I can live with rules, and having my stuff checked, whatever makes her happy
No I am not okay with. If he is jealous, it is very childish because there shouldn't be reason for him to feel jealous. If he feels like he needs to go through your phone, it is trust issues. And that is a major problem. He does not have the right to control where you go or who you talk to In marriage you talk it out about what they like and don't like and respect each other. You have to have respect. You made vows to each other, this is what it means to be married. But outside of it, it simply depends if they reasoning is correct. Like somebody who robs and steals and your caught in the middle, and they tell you no for a reason before it's too late.
Women in general just need to respect his desires if she does love him and honors him, as long as it's right. It should never be about anybody's way if your about being with each other. Both needs to have common ground and practice that. I do not like jealously, it's wrong. It does not represent love, it represents a lot of different things that provoke somebody to anger. This should never be done. Jealously god forbid if taken too far can make somebody feel to do other things the other person will not agree with, or lead to illegal matters or worse.
i think its a sign of insecurity which is a turn off.. its nice to know that he cares and gets a little jealous, but taking it over the top is just scary... relationships need trust and freedom and respect. being crazy jealous and controlling is not that...
I have never guessed reason of that kind of jealousy. If you are confident you will never be jealous and if you aren't then what are you doing aside me? I am not jealous myself and I don't want him to be jealous as well, I want him to be trustful and If he is not than he's place is with other woman not with me. He will go another man will come. Life is simple. I want him to feel happy if I am in the centre of attention of ladies and gentlemen. And I will feel proud of him if he is in the centre of ladies attention as long as I know he's mine no matter how many flies fly across him. It is even better if he is desirable, it means I have a man every woman wants to have. I think it should be same way for him. #NoToJealousy
I don't get jealous at all. If he's dumb enough to cheat he knows his ass is getting beat and whatever other female is involved as well. I'm not a fan of jealous partners, I like my space. You can have my phone but don't go through it looking like you don't trust me
Ok, some jealously is fine to an extent. Like if some other guy gives me attention and my boyfriend sees it and tries to step in, that's ok in my book. But really jealous to the point of controling who you hang out with, who you text, where you're going, what you wear, is too much and should never be tolerated by either guy or girl.
I am not OK with a jaelous and controlling partner. Slight jealousy is good, shows that he cares for me, but CONTROLLING partner is a big NO NO. And i would also never control my man. I mean, i have seen that regardless of gender, no matter who controls their partner, the controlled one always feels suffocated and irritated at it. And it ultimately leads to a break off of the relationship. So yeah, we gotta give space to our partners , no matter which gender we are.
I don't want anyone to invade my privacy. My parents did that to me too much. I don't return the favour either but I do quiz him when he acts odd but I don't control any aspect of his life. We are both grown and acting possessive would make me straight up leave him
I had a boyfriend like that he literally cut me of from all of my friends. I think such behavior is inacceptable in any relationship. Trust, respect, care and love should be the foundation of a relationship, and control is the lack of these four. I think insecurity every now and then is a natural feeling as long as we are human, but to act out on it is inacceptable.
Dear god no. I don't want to be with anyone who is incapable of trusting me. I'm a very independent person and I despise being made to feel like a prisoner. The jealousy/control shit is a sure fire way to get me to leave.
If its on both side of the equation im cool with it:) dont really care if my SO sees my stuff.. better than explaining it all. Plus wouldn't mind seeing his stuff. Except he's techy and im definitely not. Lol
That's a huge problem for me and if I was in a relationship with a guy like that, I would believe that 1. He doesn't trust me 2. He sees me as his property. Because of that, I would feel inclined to end it with him.
I don't like that at all. I want whoever I end up with to be able to trust me, and I want to feel like I can trust them. They do not get to dictate my life and I don't get to dictate theirs, either. It goes both ways, for men and women. Also, sometimes possessiveness and trust issues can be a sign of the other person feeling guilty about being dishonest or disloyal. Not always, but sometimes.
I don't really even understand jealousy. I grew up rich. I still am rich. I've always bee labeled as the girl that has it all. And I'm beautiful intelligent nice and sexy. So I have no reason to be jealous.
There's a thin line between taking initiative (Which is what we essentially want- taking us out, choosing the movie or what to eat) and being controlling (going through our phones, being overly jealous).
I have never had a jealous man in my life not only in form of partner but also in my family. Like my father he is really cool ( while that might not be same with many of my friends) . So i guess if my boyfriend is really jealous i m gonna like it for a few months or so but down the road in like a six months or more I won't be able to handle it. I would like him to be a little possessive tho ckz that i guess shows how much he cares about having me in his life but not like a crazy person. Also i like a little dom men so i guess he would have to be attentive regarding it. I surely won't like him to chk my phones n stuff but i would like him to keep n eye n know who i m talking to n stuff. ( since i m very loyal person so ya I would like him to trust me ). For me i m a bit jealous n I won't have him straying around. I give a lot in a rltn i would need the same from the man i m with. But i m quite ok with him having a few female frns as long as he doesn't cross the line ( or make me feel so )
Hate it, there just be trust in a relationship and I feel like jealousy, and one partner being controlling just kind of ruins the trust and the whole relationship.
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