Why did I have an Anxiety Attack seeing an old crush?

[Anonymous]

I really don't know why I had an Anxiety attack... (A mild one)

But I did.

I saw an old crush on Tinder, A girl that I worked with for a week or so... I liked her a lot, but ended up leaving my job before we talked more...

Two years later, swiping on Tinder I see her...

For some reason I feel very anxious

I felt like I have done nothing to improve my life over two years and am not good enough for her... on top of that I just got rejected by my current crush and this has really hurt me... I am not doing so well at work and have gained 10 lbs.

Should I message my old crush ( She left her Instagram), Should I see if we match? Should I fix my life up ( Deal with my current rejection, do better at work, work out more) and not do anything?

Does this have something to do with my current rejection?

Normally I would have said, well if we match great... if not.. wasn't ment to be... but I am really overthinking this...

I feel terrible right now...

[Anonymous]

I can understand the anxiety that comes with knowing you have a second chance with someone you used to have a crush on. I've gone through that and at the time I also felt like I hadn't improved enough and needed to take the time to get my life together before trying. But the thing is, you're always gonna be trying to improve yourself- people in general are always trying to improve themselves no matter how happy they are with life. Which is whyyyyy I think you should GO FOR IT! It everyone gets a second chance to talk to an old crush man. If you're lucky enough to get this opportunity don't waste it! I didn't waste my second chance and asked that guy out. It didn't work out between us but I'm glad I reached out anyway.

[Asker]

I am really scared to even message her, she is so pretty...

[Opinion Owner]

Don't worry about it! Just message her! Trust me it will feel so good afterwards regardless of how she responds. I've done some pretty ballsy stuff before when I've had crushes. If you feel like she's worth it then ask her out! Rejection isn't so bad I promise. I've asked out 3 guys before and even though they all said yes at first turns out they liked someone else before I came along so try rejected me LOL. It's all good though I'm still friendly with 2 of them- it's just I don't bother talking to them too much now cause they have girlfriends and I wanna give them space. GIOD LUCK!! And sorry for late response! I've been busy as of late

[Asker]

No problem...

I did it and feel good... :)

We started a conversation, I implied I liked her... and unfortunately when I did that she didn't even respond...

Maybe she wasn't all she was chalked up to be, I wasn't too invested and am not thinking about her... so all is well, now I know...

Thank you :)

[Opinion Owner]

CONGRATS! You'll find someone else trust me.

[Spiorad_Aisce]

Just old fashioned nerves on seeing a girl you like compounded by the fact she is an old crush. What do you do - Go for it. In lottery terminology, if you don't buy a ticket, you can't win jackpot.

[Spiorad_Aisce]

Thanks for MHO

[Asker]

You're welcome :)