I guess I always give them the benefit of the doubt and don't assume until it appears as a pattern or they stop contacting altogether. But so many women, and a lot of my friends included, immediately think that because a guy takes long to respond to a message, says he is busy and can't see or meet them at that moment, or maybe even moves slow with a woman.. That all of a sudden he is seeing other women? I mean I can see if a guy is super busy, maybe he wants to push it off until he isn't. They say guys don't multi task or think as women do in certain ways, and I feel like it applies here. Just because a guy isn't calling you every day or isn't coming on strongly doesn't mean he is seeing other women. Y'al act like guys are hunting after women like it's all they have time and energy to do when I don't think that's the case (especially men above 24/25 when they enter the real world and may have other commitments and less time available if they are career focused).
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Guy here. Men have a lot of social pressure on them when it comes to dating. We are pressured to chase women and make the first move but we are also equally pressured to have to know when they aren't interested. Women suck at sending signals (so do men). They'll show zero signs up interest and then you'll find out they were interested later on. Then they'll show a bunch of signs of interest and you'll find out they aren't interested. From my POV I will chase a chick lightly and leave it at that if she isn't responsive to my signals. If she does anything once to show signs of not being interested such as rejecting me hanging out 2x in a row, being rejected on a flat out date, not being responsive to my flirting, I immediately cease contact and move on. I don't want to come off as a stalker, desperate, or the creep that can't take a hint. Any signals she sends after already coming off as uninterested, I don't interpret, move on, and ignore her. I just don't want to be labeled a loser that can't take her hints.1