Tomorrow is my 16th birthday and all my friends already had at least two boyfriends. They think that it is cute that I never been in love or never had a boyfriend. But I still don't like it that I never had one. And I don't think that there has been a guy who liked me.
My question is : is it weird that I never had a boyfriend?
Most Helpful Guy
At your age? I'd have said that "hell no, of course it isn't"- but then again, I'm not a member of your generation, and maybe I'm just not in touch with how precocious your generation is. But I'd advise you not to get a boyfriend for the sake of having one- a partner isn't just some fashion accessory like a handbag, to be taken off the shelves and then discarded once you're done with it for a more expensive and fashionable one. And I can guarantee you that the vast majority of your friends have never been in love themselves either. They've been in lust. And their approach to relationships is clearly a casual approach. But it sounds as though you yourself want to have a loving relationship, with a guy who genuinely 'likes you' likes you. And they shouldn't put you down and mock you as 'cute' and 'naive' for wanting to have a relationship like that, instead of playing the field and going on the prowl as they do. You have every right to desire a meaningful, romantic relationship, and to set your sights upon that goal. But if you do, then so long as you have the patience, the guys will come to you. Only bad guys flock to the girls who put it out as early as they can, when they're your age. But good guys come to girls who wait.2
Most Helpful Girl
You're 16. The fact that you've never had a boyfriend isn't weird at all. I mean, at your age (from what I remember when I was younger), most relationships are largely for show. To just show that you are capable of getting that much attention, even though comparatively speaking, relationships don't get legitimately 'serious' to be considered real until after high school anyway.
Likewise for love. I know it's a subjective thing but when I look at the relationship I had back when I was around your age in comparison to the one I'm in now, I put the past ones in air quotation-marks. I don't think I or most of my friends at the time were mature enough for those 'relationships' or 'past loves' to carry much significance at all.0