Somehow sex has become one of the main focuses in a relationship and it's frustrating. Before, when I dated guys, I would gladly have sex with them early on. The first few weeks would go great and I would assume things would last for a while. I was dumped everytime. It was all they wanted. Now I've decided to change how I go pursue relationships and I've decided to wait until I know the guy is serious. Being used like that really hurts and I didn't want that to happen again. I'm still getting dumped if I "wait too long" or guys won't even talk to me after I tell them.
I'm so confused and frustrated.
3mo Used to wait one month, now I wait 3 to 4 months.
You're just dating the wrong type of guys, are really unlucky or something. I don't understand why some guys do it, as personally I don't mind waiting and I won't dump a chick after sex.
I guess it's just people in general, it happens. Some people ain't ready for a serious relationship, or they're putting all the work in, find something they don't like about you and just think "well if I put q bit more work in I can get sex then fuck her off"
I have no idea if people think that but I'm assuming they do haha.
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This is what i think is going on, some of the guys you gave it up to early are probably telling other guys that you are easy, and those guys are dating you for the sex because another guy told them.
Im no expert on dating, i have not dated in over 2 years, the last guy i talked to verbally abused me and my first only 2 real rrelationships lasted too short and we never had sex because it only lasted 3-4 months
My advice to you is to get to know these guys and watch how they treat others but don't have sex with them. Its better to be dumped without giving up sex than to be pumped and dumped, its an awful feeling
"Fun and outgoing" guys sure as hell aren't going to wait 4 months for you to give up the poon. If I don't get at least a blowjob on the 2nd date, there won't be a 3rd. The 3rd date is PIV or I next the girl. And I'm being generous. A lot of guys require sex on date one in order for there to be a date two.
It sounds like the guys you are seeing get determined to fuck you, even though they are mad as hell that you make them wait so long. When you finally put out, the guys say "Yeah, I waited her out and got me some!" Then they dump you for all the BS you put them through. You've turned it into a game for them.
Wow that's gotta hurt. I can understand how you can be frustrated and confused. Guys can be manipulating. How long do you plan on waiting? What kind of guys are you dating? Do they talk of a future and stuff like that or do they go with a flow?
Well the guys who dump you because you won't have sex are the exact same guy who would dump you if you did. They are both the same, guys who only want sex. At least when you wait and the guys stays you will know you have someone who is actually in to you. Keep up what you are doing.
I understand your frustration and can see why you belive it's in your best interest to wait but personally I would lose interest if a girl who used to have sex right away with her previous partners wanted to make me wait months.
Some guys don't care though. Eventually you will find one of them.
You're hooking up with the wrong guys. Give your bfs a time to wait. Until then, have cuddling and stuff like that. See if they really like your personality and stick around. Having sex is good;but if you feel used up, it will hurt you.
Wrong chosen guys will always do this to u since their ultimate treasure is sex.
is the sex any good? maybe they were assuming it would be better or something? I don't know how good looking you are or why they were interested. it seems odd the guy would just dump a girl willing to have sex with him for no reason?
your going for the jerks, id recommend going for the nice guys instead, but your not a virgin so it might be a problem for the "nice" guy group. plus maybe you get distant too and they think you dumped them.
You got to be careful. Use what you learned from past experiences and incorporate then to the present. Usually finding someone who wants the same thing is hard, but there is definitely men out there who want what you want. A lot of the times when they just want sex in general, their heart isn't in the relationship for the right reasons. And if they can't wait for the time to be intimate with you, then you also know they weren't in it for the right reasons.
I had the same problem in my early 20's. I think its an age thing. Young guys just was to sleep around. You could be perfect but they still want to see if the grass is greener somewhere else. Try going for old guys.
That's the problem. If a guy is with you just for sex he will leave as soon as he gets it especially if it's early on. Don't be worried if you'll get dumped for 'waiting too long' because the right guy will wait whether he's a virgin or not.
I think it's because they can easily get what they want from u.. well, all the guys think is always about sex and since they had enough with you so u get dumped.. sorry to say but i think u need to make it hard-to-get-it-from-me and if they really want it, ask them to try for it. Come on, i certainly sure u'll find ur true live babes😉