Somehow sex has become one of the main focuses in a relationship and it's frustrating. Before, when I dated guys, I would gladly have sex with them early on. The first few weeks would go great and I would assume things would last for a while. I was dumped everytime. It was all they wanted. Now I've decided to change how I go pursue relationships and I've decided to wait until I know the guy is serious. Being used like that really hurts and I didn't want that to happen again. I'm still getting dumped if I "wait too long" or guys won't even talk to me after I tell them.
I'm so confused and frustrated.
Most Helpful Guy
You're just dating the wrong type of guys, are really unlucky or something. I don't understand why some guys do it, as personally I don't mind waiting and I won't dump a chick after sex.
I guess it's just people in general, it happens. Some people ain't ready for a serious relationship, or they're putting all the work in, find something they don't like about you and just think "well if I put q bit more work in I can get sex then fuck her off"
I have no idea if people think that but I'm assuming they do haha.2
Most Helpful Girl
This is what i think is going on, some of the guys you gave it up to early are probably telling other guys that you are easy, and those guys are dating you for the sex because another guy told them.
Im no expert on dating, i have not dated in over 2 years, the last guy i talked to verbally abused me and my first only 2 real rrelationships lasted too short and we never had sex because it only lasted 3-4 months
My advice to you is to get to know these guys and watch how they treat others but don't have sex with them. Its better to be dumped without giving up sex than to be pumped and dumped, its an awful feeling1