My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. We are both 21. My parents don't know that I've slept over at his house and he has stayed at my apartment several times.
My parents would kill me! It's not even for religious reason as to why they would get mad. They just don't think it's right.
His parents are more than happy when I stay over rather than me driving back home late at night.
At this age is it still innapropriate? I feel as if I know what's right and what's wrong. And I'm old enough to do whatever I want.
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It's not the fact that your old enough. It's the fact that your sleeping in the same bed. Some people will find it inappropriate regardless your age, especially when your not married. If you are at your apartment you sleep on the bed and he sleeps somewhere else. Okay then. Thats good boundaries being set up. The same applying if your stayed over with him. It's not about being an adult, and it doesn't make you an adult. Nether does your age. It's using common sense and having respect for one another. If your parents did find out, they will be in a disagreement with your relationship. You maybe 21, but you still have to honor your parents. And hiding truth from them will only hurt and strain your relationship with them further. You need to know where your values lay at for yourself. And religious has nothing to do with it. Question every and anybody who did what you did and see how far their relationship goes, or have their ever kept their partners, or led to marriage without a divorce for life. You don't want to compromise your values and wants if its not something you know you don't need. That's what you need to think about. And what are the consequences that comes with such a choice long term, not just short term. It all boils down to choices. And if your out of your parents home, officially, you need to think about this for yourself now. Because it will come to a point where no one will able to help make that decision with you, and you'll be by yourself to make them. Also ask yourself this: Am I going to regret it? Hopes this helps.0
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