what would your reaction be if his friend kept telling him that he was stupid for dating a woman with kids, or that he was a sucker for taking care of another man's kids?
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I have 2 children and I am dating someone for 9 months. This person is in my life not because I am looking for someone to raise them OR support them. The reason I wanted a relationship is something for ME. Someone I can focus my love and attention on. As a woman you give give give to your kids, your work, your household, family, having a man in my life is something very special cause its just MINE. At the end of the day when my kids are in bed, I have someone that comes over that I enjoy emotionally and physically. My ex use to say to me that he would NEVER date someone that had kids, so when we split I though NOBODY would want to date me, and that men were shallow. Honestly, woman that have kids have a certain level of maturity, responsibility, ownership, reliability and they are very nuturing. So if you find someone that has children, personally I think its great. I think it takes a really good stand up guy to look past that and see just the woman. Ignore what your friends say. When I was in highschool my friends opinions ment a lot but hey, we are adults, make the decision based on how you feel and what's in your gut. Tell your friends you appreciate their advice and that they care about you but in the end its up to you.0